This year has been stressful for me as I’ve had a lot going on with family while also having final exams and other assignments through work. Video games are a hobby I’ve enjoyed since I was young and I usually get new games whenever they come out.
I haven’t had the time this year so I said I’d wait until Christmas and buy the games that came out this year that I wanted and dedicate two days to play them over my time off work between Christmas and New Year.
My girlfriend has known about this since I planned it a few months ago but this weekend mentioned that she doesn’t think I should.
She said it’ll be expensive getting them all and that I shouldn’t be spending that much money on them at once and that it is a lot of time to spend on them when we’re off work.
I’ll be getting probably 6-7 games that have been released this year so the average cost will probably be £45-£55 per game possibly less depending on if they’re in a sale.
I pointed out it’s my money and that I’d still be able to afford bills and the plans we’ve got so it’s not really up to her how I spend my money.
I pointed out we’ve got a lot of plans over the time off over Christmas so me taking a couple of days for myself is not an issue since the majority of the time off will still be spent together.
She said I should be listening to her and open to changing what I had planned so I should only get one or two games and only spend a few hours oni t. I refused and just repeated again that it’s my money and time and it doesn’t impact anything we have planned.
AITAH for how much money and time I’ll be spending on video games?
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This year has been stressful for me as I’ve had a lot going on with family while also having final exams and other assignments through work. Video games are a hobby I’ve enjoyed since I was young and I usually get new games whenever they come out.
I haven’t had the time this year so I said I’d wait until Christmas and buy the games that came out this year that I wanted and dedicate two days to play them over my time off work between Christmas and New Year.
My girlfriend has known about this since I planned it a few months ago but this weekend mentioned that she doesn’t think I should.
She said it’ll be expensive getting them all and that I shouldn’t be spending that much money on them at once and that it is a lot of time to spend on them when we’re off work.
I’ll be getting probably 6-7 games that have been released this year so the average cost will probably be £45-£55 per game possibly less depending on if they’re in a sale.
I pointed out it’s my money and that I’d still be able to afford bills and the plans we’ve got so it’s not really up to her how I spend my money.
I pointed out we’ve got a lot of plans over the time off over Christmas so me taking a couple of days for myself is not an issue since the majority of the time off will still be spent together.
She said I should be listening to her and open to changing what I had planned so I should only get one or two games and only spend a few hours oni t. I refused and just repeated again that it’s my money and time and it doesn’t impact anything we have planned.
AITAH for how much money and time I’ll be spending on video games?
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> Planned to buy 6-7 games near Christmas and play them for 2 days over my time off.
My partner said I should be own to butting down the time and amount I’m planning to get and that I’m unreasonable for not listening to her.
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NTA
Like you said it’s your money and time spent, plus you scheduled well in advance. If you suddenly decided day of or before would be a different case, but there’s nothing wrong with setting time aside for yourself.
Well as of now NTA, so enjoy it while you are young and have time for it. But when you get older priority changes.
Based on the information you’ve given OP, you’re definitely NTA.
You’re allowed your own interests too, and considering that it’s not affecting your ability to pay bills and dedicating two full days to play them is absolutely fine.
I’m somewhere between ESH and NAH. Sure you get to spend your time and money how you like, but given that the holidays are typically a time for family/togetherness, I can see your girlfriend being a bit put out that you intend to spend a chunk of it on a solo hobby. It’s not that you’re in the wrong exactly but it is telling her something about where your priorities lie, which is likely what’s really upsetting her.
NTA but I do agree you don’t really need to buy all of them together.
it’s probably more worth to buy the few you want to play in the immediate and then buy the rest when you want to play them instead of having them sit there. (maybe you’ll even get sales)
But as you said, it’s your money so if you wanna buy them all together go ahead lol
In all likelihood NTA, but often times in these types of conflicts there’s another layer thats really driving it. For your relationships sake, take a beat to think a bit deeper.
She mentions the money, just take a minute to think if youve had other conversations about money lately. Do you owe her/someone money or are you in debt? Is she or someone often covering your tab? Have you recently left a job or discussed moving?
She mentions the time off, could it be that through your stress youve pulled away from her? Its not uncommon to do, but it can make the other person crave connection when there’s a perceived lull in the stress.
NTA, but are you really going to start and finish 6-7 games in just a few days? Just pick up one and play through it fully from start to finish. You’ll enjoy it a whole not more than jumping around between so many games and not progressing far in any of them.
Wanting to unwind with something you love after a stressful year is completely reasonable.