I (20F) feel like I’m losing my mind over this and I don’t know if I’m being paranoid or if my brother (16M) is actually crossing the line.
A few weeks ago, I thought I was home alone. I was in my room, door closed, and being intimate with myself not exactly quiet about it. Suddenly, my door opened slightly and I saw a phone camera slowly peek in. I shouted “what the hell are you doing?” and my brother panicked and said he was just “checking if I was in.” I checked his camera roll later but didn’t find anything, so I convinced myself I must have been wrong or overreacting.
But then the other night I was watching a movie in bed, just wearing a crop top and underwear. My brother asked to watch too, and I said fine, but told him he couldn’t get under the covers. I fell asleep expecting he’d leave. Instead, I woke up the next morning with the covers pulled off me (which doesn’t happen when I sleep alone) and he was standing at the foot of my bed with his phone pointed at me. I stirred and he ran out of the room.
This makes him look really guilty. But here’s the problem: we’ve always been extremely close, and I’m terrified of accusing him of something awful if I’m wrong. At the same time, I feel unsafe and like my privacy is being completely disrespected.
Would I be the asshole if I confronted him or told our parents or even just informed the police?