Yesterday morning, my mom, 50F, approached me, a 22M, and told me she needed my computer for an online meeting because her laptop had been stolen while we were in Greece. I didn’t hesitate and gave it to her. I already had all the programs she needed downloaded because I had done a summer internship at her company a couple of years back. So Using my computer was more convenient for her than using my dad’s laptop.
I’m the only person who uses my computer, and it has a password on it. My desktop is a bit messy, filled with apps, some work stuff, Excel sheets, etc. However, I keep all my photos and videos in a specific folder so I can easily find them.
A few months ago, my girlfriend, a 23F, and I went on vacation to Poland. I showed my mom some of the pictures we took on my computer. They were beautiful, and she told me we should get them printed and framed. I never got around to doing it—you know how life is.
After her meeting, my mom apparently wanted to surprise us. Since my girlfriend and I had just moved in together, she decided to get those pictures printed as a housewarming gift. While looking for the photos, she found a folder containing private videos my girlfriend and I had filmed together. Just to be clear, we don’t post them anywhere; it’s a private and consensual fantasy for us. We just watch them together afterward and make comments, like we’re watching a football game. Some of the videos have role-playing, like nurse or police costumes. There were only about seven videos in total, but almost all of them had some sort of role-play in them, which made the situation much worse.
When this happened, my girlfriend and I were upstairs. We heard my mom scream We quickly rushed downstairs and saw her throw the computer. But the damage was already done.
My mom is a devout Christian who goes to church every week, and now she is forcing us to go as well. After this incident, she made us talk to a pastor about how bad porn is for an hour today. Basically, my beautiful, innocent girlfriend, my mom known since the first year of university, is now gone forever. because I’m too stupid
TL;DR: My 50-year-old mom found a folder of private videos my 23F girlfriend and I (22M) made while she was using my computer. As a result, she now has a completely different, negative view of my girlfriend and me
Comments
bruh… roleplay videos + mom = instant PTSD for all parties involved
This is really mums fault for snooping in your photos
Your mom sounds like she doesnt have boundaries, time to establish some.
You can love your parents and have them stay out of your private life and the way you choose to live it at the same time.
Sucks your mom was that intrusive, but maybe this is a reminder to move those private videos to an encrypted folder to keep them safe from theft, etc!