Are your 20s meant to feel like a fever dream?

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I’m 23 now. And ever since I turned 18, it feels like I keep living completely different lives every 6 months to a year.

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  2. Lollc Avatar

    Mine were like that, until I went to college at age 24 or 25.

  3. TinyZane Avatar

    Pretty much! It felt that way until around age 31 for me, when I bought a house amand had much more permanency in my life. 

  4. Good-Huckleberry-287 Avatar

    My 20s were absolutely like that and I lived so much that now that t’s a bit more quiet, i have no frustration or feel like i missed anything

  5. StrongDifficulty4644 Avatar

    yeah, your 20s can feel like a blur. so much changes so fast—jobs, friends, goals. it’s a time of figuring things out, and that’s normal. just go with it, learn from it, and enjoy the ride.

  6. OutcomeDefiant2912 Avatar

    My first 20 years on this planet was a fever dream.

  7. TopAd1052 Avatar

    Yes everything is happening. So many experiences u never had b4. All exciting, the good n bad. You’ll do more of what fits you, less that you don’t. Soon you get into a rhythm. Life my seem to slow down. Just enjoy the ride.

  8. Randygilesforpres2 Avatar

    Yeah. It really is.

  9. MissHibernia Avatar

    Adolescence lasts a lot further into your 20s than you might think

  10. Routine_Mine_3019 Avatar

    That’s good that you are going through lots of changes. This is the part of your life where you should be considering different options in many categories that will chart your course through life. This includes education/career, physical attraction, health habits, personal interests, philosophy/theology, and many more.

    Enjoy and make good choices. Invest in your future. Keep an open mind and listen.

  11. 306heatheR Avatar

    Both my teens and my twenties were incredibly busy; filled with experiences, education, travel, mistakes, challenges and change that helped me establish a solid base for fiscally safe adult life. I’m eternally grateful I got to live those years when I did, as the world was a gentler and kinder place.

  12. Historical_Leg5998 Avatar

    I’m 41.

    School is a  complete blur aside from one or two incidents either because they were memorable in either a positive way or a negative way.

    20s is a semi-blur

    30s I remember completely but it felt like it only lasted four years not ten.

    I’ll wake up tomorrow and be 50

  13. TheRealCrustycabs Avatar

    Beats the shit outta me. I was wasted thru most of my 20s

  14. FrenchFrozenFrog Avatar

    my life in my 20s and my life in my 30s are like two complete different lives. You will reincarnate many times until you settle.

  15. Sufficient-Union-456 Avatar

    Sounds normal. You are a young adult. Shit comes fast and varied. 

  16. ansyensiklis Avatar

    I married at 25 and had a house and 3 kids by 30. So, yea a blur. Upside is I was an empty nester at 47.

  17. MoneyMom64 Avatar

    I joined the military at 22 so a pretty predictable and secure job. We were still in the middle of a Cold War but it was like having g a 9-5 job with a great sports program. Got married, had 3 kids. Had a great time with the other 20-somethings

  18. FrauAmarylis Avatar

    It felt like Banging my head against the wall and learning how to think, with stints of luck in between where it all ended up working out.

    The best thing I did was graduate on time and live with roommates, work hard, pack my lunch, save my money instead of buying coffee and meals out, and invest for retirement.

    It worked- i retired at age 38.

  19. Withnail2019 Avatar

    Yeah that sounds like how it was

  20. MeRegular10 Avatar

    My experience was a bit different. I was a teenage dad. My 20s was spent spending boatloads of money keeping my daughter up to speed with fashion trends, telling her to lower her radio and walking the dog that followed her home – the one she promised to take care of. 

  21. These-Slip1319 Avatar

    It’s when you figure out how whacked out a lot of people are.

  22. InterPunct Avatar

    Yeah, that’s a pretty good description.

  23. FoxyLady52 Avatar

    That’s why the military is so enticing.

  24. grimlock75 Avatar

    Yes, you are suppose to struggle financially and figure out life.

  25. ThatOneGirlTM_940 Avatar

    Not the whole decade, but a bit yeah. Some of my best nights feel like fever dreams 😵‍💫

  26. Careless-Ability-748 Avatar

    Mine didn’t feel like that, but I’m a pretty tame person.

  27. No_Nefariousness6376 Avatar

    Yup! Seems like when I turned 20, everything is completely different. The way I handle things, responsibilities, goals, dreams and many more. I think that’s how life is. Everyone experience the quarter life crisis and you need to have someone to lean on just in case. lol. 😀

  28. cindyaa207 Avatar

    That’s cool. Have fun. You will change many times.

  29. rosemaryscrazy Avatar

    I don’t know but everything you’re doing now will build the person you will be at 30.

  30. challam Avatar

    I don’t know if they’re meant to feel like that, but I think it’s pretty normal when they do.

  31. CremeCompetitive3554 Avatar

    Yeah I have been 6 different people over the last two years.

  32. Smooth-Jury-6478 Avatar

    Oh yeah! You’re literally learning who you are as an adult without the constant oversight of your parents, teachers, etc. Society is bombarding you with the latest trends and it’s so fast moving that you can’t keep up. You’re now saddled with responsibilities you likely didn’t have before and still trying to hold on to the innocence and carefree attitude of your teen years. Your brain is also still developing but you’re effectively a grown adult. It’s a lot. Once you reach 30-35, that’s when you really start seeing your true self (personality, style, wants and needs, etc.) come out in the open. You stop worrying about what other people think and want from you, you start being a little more selfish about what you want from yourself and others. You finally shed the things you went along with because you were told this is what you need and surround yourself with things that bring YOU joy, no matter what others think of it.

  33. mosselyn Avatar

    Mine weren’t like that, but I think it depends on where you are in your life (independent of chronological age) and how you choose to live.

    My early 20s were spent in college, which meant studying, not partying, in my case. When I started my career, work gave structure to my life. I found a good group of single friends through work, and that was that. Aside from the transition from student to worker bee, my life was very stable.

  34. alphaphiz Avatar

    They definitely go by as quickly as one.