Hi everyone, I need some advice because I’m going through a situation that’s overwhelming me.
I’m 24 years old, I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years, I’ve lived with my boyfriend for a year, and for the past few weeks it’s been a bit of a fight after a fight, especially since I started a night job (a job I studied for 6 years, and he always knew I would do this job!).
He doesn’t like it because we see each other less, and I sleep during the day while he’s working.
But that’s not even the point.
I’m allergic to seafood. The other night we were invited to a friend’s house for a party where everyone had to bring a dish.
My boyfriend brought back some spring rolls. I was with my family. I went straight to him. I asked him if he made them. He said yes. I tasted them, and I immediately tasted them, and I could tell there were shrimp in them.
I asked him, and he replied, “Oh yeah, I forgot to tell you.”
Luckily, my friend, who is allergic to peanuts, had an epinephrine pen and gave it to me, but it wasn’t enough. My throat started to swell. The ambulance came, and I ended up in the hospital on an IV drip.
When I came to, my best friend and parents were there. I asked where my boyfriend was. There was an awkward silence, and they told me, “He went out for a drink with some friends. He said we’d call him when you left.”
It really pissed me off. My best friend even told me he seemed completely oblivious to the whole thing. When I got home, we had an argument about his behavior. In a fit of anger, I said, “Did you try to kill me or something?” And he replied, “Too bad it failed, at least you wouldn’t be annoying me.”
I went to my room to cry, letting out my hatred from the evening. We haven’t spoken for two days, the atmosphere is icy, not even an apology, nothing.
I tell myself I’m going to leave him, that there’s nothing left to save, but I have this doubt in the back of my mind. I talked to my mother, who told me that every relationship goes through problems.
But now we’re talking about a problem that sent me to the hospital, and I find it really strange: he NEVER eats seafood, so why put it in the dish?
Maybe I’m being paranoid?
What do you think? Am I being dramatic or is his behavior serious?