I was reading a discussion about nighttime intimacy, and it got me wondering how people really feel about being woken up for it, some love it, some don’t.
I was reading a discussion about nighttime intimacy, and it got me wondering how people really feel about being woken up for it, some love it, some don’t.
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Sure, if I can get hard after waking up all groggy in the middle of night and there’s nothing scheduled for early morning, I’d be doing her
My wife says this…but I feel bad and never do, except once on vaycay
Wouldn’t it be easier to just masturbate?
It’s awesome, waking up to an orgasm is literally the best thing ever.
My GF says she is fine if i do this but at the same time i either don’t wake up for this or I don’t wake her up because i want her to rest
If we are both awake, why not. Happened at 3am this morning
I like being fucked with while I’m asleep
Lottery. If i would be in a mood or not tired i would happily join the offer.
If I were sleepy and tired I would definetly let him know it was bad idea.
Generally we respect each other so he would rather try on evening or wait for morning.
I’d feel I’m in the wrong bed.
We do this, we love it.
I’d have to have agreed to it with my gf first. I’d feel bad for waking her up and I wouldn’t want to be woken up without a discussion first. Spontaneity is great but we value our sleep and she has insomnia.
Yay, team? That’s happened with us before, and afterwards, we went back to sleep. It was awesome.
Groggy and then slightly pissed and then going back to sleep, without finishing. Sleep is on a higher priority, due to it being less available than sex and with a bigger impact on overall wellbeing/functioning.
Happy
I sleep in the Master Chief death pose so I’d be impressed on how she flipped my big ass over
Depends on if I’m already asleep. If yes fuck off and wait until morning. If no, probably fine.
Love itttt
I do this often to my GF. I wish she would do it to me, and sort of did yesterday XD. It havily depends on how tired they are and how much sleep they have gotten so far. Within an hour of falling asleep? Risky. After 6 hours of sleep? Usually great. It also depends on how you do it. Are you going “HEY WAKE UP I WANT SEX” or are you building up to it. The wake up i want sex I don’t think is very popular. IT’s startling and not sexy. MY GF woke me up yesterday asking for cuddles and that turned into sex. That worked great.
What I often do is turn her on before she wakes up then when she wakes up she wants it. Alternativly being woken up by penetration can be very exciting for some and very scary for others. She loves it but sometimes gets scared. The biggest thing for this is while touching parts of there body go slow and listen for breathing changes. There is a “sexy heavy breathing” that will usually happen for her its when touch her boobs. If that happens it’s on the table. IF it doesn’t, it’s time for sleep
I’m usually pretty happy about it.
Occasionally, my partner or I wake up wanting to do it. We’ve cleared with each other that we are good to go on attempting to wake the other up and mess around. Sometimes, one of us is in a deep sleep and just doesn’t happen, though. We just save it for morning wake up sex.
I noticed that waking up in the middle of the night and cuddling your partner, and then finding your partner cuddling back aggressively, and finally sex, is so much more satisfying than going on a date and doing the whole routine where you KNOW it’s coming the whole night. Might be tmi but the first time I ever came with a partner was spontaneous half-asleep nighttime sex. Wet dream come-true.
Elated
Very yes.
I’m that damn partner. 🤣🤣
My boyfriend will do this every so often and it’s my favorite thing. It sometimes feels extra special when we were both asleep but wake up to wanting to be so close.
Just make sure u communicate before doing any CNC 💯very important to get consent before u do anything to anyone sleeping
My wife would never do this.
I cannot stress enough how much this woman loves her sleep and how, under pain of death, I can’t disturb her.
I’m into somnophelia, so it’s right up my alley. I’d love it!
As a woman with recurrent insomnia, I personally don’t like it. If I wake up, I probably won’t be able to get back to sleep. We can get freaky when I’ve met my basic need of sleep first, that’s a higher priority for me. But mine is a special case due to the sleep problems I have, which get pretty severe at times. I’ve heard voices and seen shadows from lack of sleep. I’ve never thought I was gonna need to be committed due to lack of sex.
However, if we’re waking up in the morning, and I’m already waking up and in the mood, then yeah, let’s have some nice slow & sleepy morning sex.
Every person is different though. Some love being woken up for sexy time. Some people prioritize their sleep health. Some people don’t have strong opinions either way. The important thing is that you know what your partner prefers, and that you respect it.
I like the idea but I think sleep me would bite my husband’s face off if he tried
We do this regularly. Wake up for a 5am session then pass back out for an hour before we have to wake up for work
Depends on the person.
I struggle to fall asleep quickly so being woken up for anything that isn’t an emergency is gonna piss me off for the whole day.
Yea has happened plenty of times in the past and I miss it. Half thrusting in my sleep before slowly waking up and realising I’m inside someone.
I would rather have fucked before sleeping. Personally sleep>sex no questions asked. I got shit to do the next day which requires a well rested mind.
If my wife woke me up “hell yes!” If I woke her up I might get punched.
For me its a kink 🙈 so my husband is allowed to “go at it” anytime he wants.
The reality is that we have small kids and are crazy tired so it doesn’t really happen.
Well I will kiss him, open my legs and welcome him with an open arms
Waking me up to ask if I wanna have sex? Annoyed.
Waking me up with sex? Violated.
Fuckin stoked.
Really happy
She better be on top
It happens once in a while (he wakes me up, I don’t just because once I’m asleep I don’t wake up) but I think it might depend on when during the sleep cycle he wakes me up lol. Sometimes I’m totally down, sometimes I’m groggy as hell and I just want to go back to sleep.
I’d be ok with it but I’d probably have a hard time going back to sleep afterwards, so depending on the timing, I might be having a rough go at work the next day.
My last partner and I both enjoyed it.
I had a BF once who’d do stuff to me in my sleep. Was very drunk one time and woke up to him having sex with me, soo I’d much rather he wake me up and ask me, than just do it lol. I actually think it would be kinda cute that he wanted me so bad that he’d wake me up for it
Usually you wanna stimulate before abruptly waking them up for it 😉
When the mood strikes it strikes. As long as it isn’t every night.
Thrilled
With me or with someone else?
Holy shit this thread is full of people who should maybe have a look at better communication about intimacy.
But if you’re team “I’d love to do that but my partner would kill me if I disturb their sleep” – maybe try doing it as a planned experience.
Have your partner lie down for a nap, with the agreement that you’ll wake them up with sweet lovin’.
(Or the other way around, if you wanna be woken up. Or maybe both lie down and set an alarm)
No nights sleep ruined, groggy love making and a good first step in talking about sexual preferences with the person you wanna spend your life with.
I have a way higher drive than my wife. She did this once, 15 years ago, and I still remember it. If I woke her up she would be legitimately pissed.
Super down
“Use me as your sex toy anytime, I’d enjoy not knowing if it was just a wet dream or real life until you told me”
Super down with it. Sometimes I take Ambein, my wife blew me to get me hard, rode me till she came and I never woke up. I was definitely surprised but I wasn’t mad at all as I previously told her if I’m asleep, do whatever you want with me.
Anyone else still waiting for this to happen??
Honestly. My wife was almost always down. I say was because now our youngest cock block insists on sleeping between us. I think she just wants to ensure she has no more siblings to fight for attention
Blinding rage! I honestly hate it. There are enough awake hours to do it, it really bothers me if the man I’m with chooses to inconvenience me in the few precious moments of sleep I have left.
My partner and I agree that we’re both ok with the other person initiating it, but both of us feel a tad icky about initiating it. lol.
But I also know people who have had experiences like this that they consider rape.
I like it. We live together and have for a few years. He’s the better sleeper than me but he knows I’m down whenever unless I’m sick or on a heavy period day.
I would be sooooo happy. I don’t know how well I would perform, but I would be happy.
Happens at least once or twice a week. Either she or I starts it.
It’s actually rather my partner just started while I was asleep than actually woke me up first. Getting locked or fucked awake is delightful. Being shaken awake out of a blissful sleep will just irritate me. I’ve already granted them permission and they know this.
I’ve had a partner who loved it, and a few who absolutely didn’t want to. The trick is to talk with them (at a normal time when you’re both awake) to find out what they prefer; don’t just surprise them some night.
The Ex loved her 3am nookie. Always said a nap before and a nap after was great. Who was i to argue?
It’s called somnophilia and I personally love it. Being a subcategory of CNC, it has the taboo alure that some people crave while also being a sign that you both trust each other thoroughly. Communication is absolute key that needs to be brought up beforehand, not something you spring on someone out of the blue.
For those interested in the idea but uncertain if they actually like the practically of it, try it first by pretending to be asleep for about 30 minutes to see if anticipation builds up or not and go from there. Other minor tips are to green-lit certain days/hours beforehand so it doesn’t interfere with early schedules, or to have a light system in place (like a lavalamp or multi-colour light) to non-verbally indicate “If X light is on I’m in the mood, if Y light is on I’m not in the mood”.
Sounds fine to me.
Sounds good.
I never turn it down in the middle of the night lol
I love it. My partner claims to love it, but I can’t wake him up without being met with a rude zombie no matter what, so I know he can’t really “handle” it lol he’s not conscious enough in the moment, it takes him 10 minutes to wake up and realize what’s going on, so I only tried it once with him and gave up immediately because he just started shoving me back to my side of the bed with no recollection of it the next morning lmao where as I feel a slight touch from him in the middle of the night and I’m like let’s go baby🫡😆
Surprised since we haven’t had any in five years
I love it but it’s initiated by my husband which I’m always down. Any time I try anything he pushes my hands away 😞
Sometimes Im super down for it. Sometimes I would react with violence.
The catch, is my partner has to know which night is which.
When we were young amd childfree? Almost always down.
Working night duties, 12 hour shifts and nursing a baby every few hours? Do it and perish.
These days? Hit and miss bassed on what else is going on.
Dont attempt it without a conversation with your partner.
My wife loves it. She enjoys feeling me on her lips and then just starts going to town on it. That’s usually how I get her going when she’s asleep.
I dunno who you are sleeping with but every male partner I’ve ever had has done it at least once. I’m not a fan
I would consider that one of the greatest spontaneous moments of my life
Rock hard
Confused and upset because I’m ace and we agreed no sex.
My wife and I have a standing agreement that one can wake the other up for sex on any non-work night. In five years, neither of us has taken the other up on the offer.
Pretty annoyed, not gonna lie
I have the opposite problem. My wife has never had a problem with it. She enjoys it. On the other hand, I am very difficult to wake up. I wish I wasn’t. It makes her feel bad.
Sexsomnia
Both me and my partner do this a lot.. and both love it.. nothing better then waking up with my partners head between my legs. Then once we’re both done falling asleep wrapped around each other.
It happened this week. After day drinking on vacay I dozed off while naked. Wife found me and proceeded to have her way. I woke up to find her on me and was thrilled. It was cool and no I don’t consider it rape
Like she’d been body-snatched. But I wouldn’t think too much about it until after.
Tired, I imagine
I’d be thrilled, but I also have the higher libido between the two of us and can fall back asleep super fast and easily. My husband on the other hand, struggles a lot with getting good sleep so if I tried something like this, he’d be furious and then I’d have to deal with his grumpy ass the rest of the day. He has a lower libido too, so his need for sleep would absolutely be prioritized over banging me out lol.
Surprised very surprised
Hubby & I agreed that we each have the green light for that, unless 1 or both have to be up hella early. (i.e. before 6am) Problem with me is that I use CPAP & sleep really deeply sometimes, so he can’t always get me to wake up. lol
Excellent I would feel Excellent
Did once. Gave up because we were both too tired.
It is not worth it. Also, I hate being woken up.
My partner and me love it. Of course there are days where one or both of us are tired and need sleep badly. And some days we just know that ” tonight could be the night”. There is an added excitement comes from this kinda semi planned sex for us.
I’d be outraged and furious. Touching me at all while Im sleeping is not going to end well.
I’d be pleasantly shocked. I’m usually the one waking her up with sex
I prefer when he doesn’t wake me and just go ahead and does it. We have discussed this, we both like it.
I love when my husband wakes me up in the middle of the night. But that’s just me my sisters would probably claw their husbands eyes out for waking them up lol
I woke up to receiving oral once and it was awesome. At least it happened once in my life.
Not gonna happen but if by some act of deity it happened – confused about wtf is going on, and excited once my braindead self realizes what’s happening.
Stoked.
Great! I encourage my wife to do it. I’ll never get mad at her for being woken up with her playing with it, giving me a blowjob or riding me