I’m a 29/M in a 2.5 year relationship with my girlfriend. 27/F. We are living together. We have been living together for about 3 months. I want to marry her but I question some things. When we get into arguments, she changes. The moments get the best of her and she turns disrespectful. She doesn’t hold herself accountable for what is happening or how it affects me.
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What advice would yall give me or did yall do? I bring up how we don’t know how to communicate in conflict & she just says, I shouldn’t have made her say or do what she needed to do. And she isn’t comfortable with therapy or counseling.
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It’s doomed. a real caring woman doesn’t do that. Either settle for a life of dysfunction and toxicness or get out
It sounds like communication and respect during conflicts are big concerns before considering marriage. Without willingness to work on these issues, like counseling or learning healthier conflict habits, those patterns may persist long-term. You might want to have a calm conversation about your dealbreakers and what you need in a partner before making a decision.