This might sound dumb but theres a girl (28 female) who is cousins of my really good friends. I am (38 maleWe live in ohio and she lives in texas but isnt opposed to moving to ohio. We are t dating yet. Logistics are a nightmare. My friends are telling me she’s interested but kind of unsure due to circumstances, and they convinced me to send her a package saying blah blah blah blah blah some heartfelt stuff just to be a token of like interest in her that it would be romantic and all this other stuff. In my mind, I’m like I think this is dumb because we’re not dating yet. She’ll probably think this is just way too much but being single I’m also like well. Maybe I just don’t know what the heck I’m doing. So anyways I listened to what they said I sent the package but now I’m having second thoughts in wondering if I’m just acting like a bagina for doing that. Im really not sure if it was good or if it killed my chances. Part of me is like whatever either she responds and is interested or she thinks is ghey and doesnt. Part of me cares and part of me doesnt. Anyways set me straight.
TLDR was it a bad idea to send a gift to someone im not dating yet?
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I think that’s really nice and romantic. This is called courtship or “wooing”. It’s part of dating! Even if you aren’t an official couple, this kind of thing is fine, normal, and probably will help your chances with this person. Don’t overthink it!
I (a woman) was going to offer you advice until you got to “acting like a bagina” and “ghey” (wtf are those spellings?)
You are almost 40 years old. Grow up.