How do you know if you are good in bed?

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How do you know if you are good in bed?

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  1. my_other_self1 Avatar

    The best tip I can give to you is to pay attention during sex. For instance, check to see if the audience-members are applauding or booing.

  2. autumntism Avatar

    You don’t have to ask if you’re good in bed

  3. JimAbaddon Avatar

    The only thing I’m good at doing in bed is sleeping.

  4. tapdancinghellspawn Avatar

    You wake up to find that you haven’t fallen out of bed.

  5. darkblueundies Avatar

    If they make plans for a next time you atleast know you weren’t shit

  6. ExcellentRectangle_ Avatar

    If you wake up and you aren’t tired

  7. wetlettuce42 Avatar

    If she moans real loud then your doing it right

  8. Net_Cultural Avatar

    If your partner cums 🤷

  9. Karaoke_Singer Avatar

    Often, you can’t know. The only thing you can do is be attentive to your partner and count the orgasms…

  10. Unique_Manager3958 Avatar

    These comments are killing me 😂🙌🏼

  11. Disastrous_Bar_6469 Avatar

    honesty why not check in with your partner see if your meeting their needs and if yours are being met as well communication even if uncomfortable can always lead to a fast easier solution

  12. jimmytestaburger Avatar

    I mean, I had a fwb for awhile and I was literally just that to her. So I assume that was a good sign

  13. Relaxedguy4you Avatar

    If you wake up feeling rested and refreshed and haven’t had any accidents through the night

  14. orlocksbabydaddy Avatar

    Send them a surveymonkey to their email address

  15. No_Tailor_787 Avatar

    You know, when your partner wants to do it again.

  16. Magneteco Avatar

    Easy, they keep coming back for more.

  17. CoolHandRK1 Avatar

    If they call back.

  18. CoffeTattoos Avatar

    They keep cuming back

  19. weisblattsnut Avatar

    I have never failed to please myself.

  20. AstronomerThat4357 Avatar

    They cone back for more, time and time again. Unless…
    …they hope I’ll improve over time
    🤔
    Edit: spelling.

  21. alarmingcharm Avatar

    Communication, reading body language, and anonymous surveys.

  22. Jane_Austen11 Avatar

    I think if someone drives a cross the country to sleep with you. That’s said a lot.

  23. ArthurLangeJr Avatar

    I don’t fall out.

  24. IKnowWhatYouThinking Avatar

    If she cums, yes you did it.

  25. lll_Joka_lll Avatar

    They go to sleep after or can’t walk after getting out the bed

  26. SaiyanGodKing Avatar

    If you have to ask, you’ll never know.

  27. Adept-Driver9089 Avatar

    If they keep texting or talking about the time you had sex. Try to get in a relationship with you afterwards. Start texting you everyday. If they seem like they’re super interested in you after you guys have sex then you did good

  28. puppy_shame_ Avatar

    I work from home

    And my appraisals are pretty good

    So i guess….

  29. Victoria01Vibes Avatar

    When you know how to satisfy yourself with no shame and your not afraid to do the same to your partner……just try it, then when you have sex together getting off at the same time is electric!!!

  30. Petronelly Avatar

    They will tell you and want more. Focus on their positive experience. Be open to ask what they like and courage them to guide you. Take hand of your partner and show how to do it. Mimic the intensity how soft or hard you like to them to touch you. First time with new partner rarely is perfect. Give them time to learn how your body works. Worst thing is to laugh, judge, point out or say something offensive of their body or act. Have a positive attitude towards diversity.

  31. BlackPearl252 Avatar

    If you are bad at bowling

  32. HoosierPaul Avatar

    I’m so good I call out my own name.

  33. Remmick2326 Avatar

    Check the comments on the hub after you post the video

  34. jazzdrums1979 Avatar

    People will ask you to come back for seconds.

  35. uswforever Avatar

    I love being in my bed. I’m always good when I’m there.

  36. Hung_andNerdy Avatar

    If you’re regularly reaching REM sleep, I’d say you’re doing good. Try to stay consistent with your bed time, it’ll really help you improve.

  37. neverleavingthewagon Avatar

    if you’re hitting it from behind and you see a shitload of a white foamy substance accumulating at the base of your rod

  38. SailLegitimate8567 Avatar

    If they become almost comically sleepy after, they’re pretty satisfied. If they want more the next day, that’s also a good sign

  39. Negative_Raccoon_486 Avatar

    All my neighbors says I’m great

  40. 321sleep Avatar

    They’ll tell you and bring it up often. Your ex’s will still want to hook up even after they’re in committed relationships. When you’re good, they come knocking

  41. RealDealFolyHield Avatar

    Hands down. I’m the best in bed!

    When I’m sleeping.

  42. timjimkl Avatar

    They’re eager to fuck you again as fast as possible

  43. Quirky-Coyote-8399 Avatar

    If they keep coming back for more when u break up… and seem to struggle moving on reminiscing about the old times… a lot. plus when they get with skmone new then are massively disappointed lol 😆

  44. nogardleirie Avatar

    If you haven’t kicked your partner or pets out of bed, you are good in bed. If you sleep alone, you are good in bed if you wake up still in bed and not on the floor

  45. Weird_Rooster_4307 Avatar

    I just am… satisfy your partner before you satisfy yourself. Watching your partner cum over and over and over again until they bleed (figure of speech. Not the real thing) is awesome!

  46. MarcussssAllen Avatar

    If you don’t know already…

  47. PuzzleheadedSet2545 Avatar

    My wife says her boyfriend is bigger and good at sex, but she prefers me <3

  48. LittleOrphanAnavar Avatar

    It’s like pie, if its good they’ll ask for seconds. 

    “Anymore of that sex left”

  49. obibloo Avatar

    When you do something bs that you shouldn’t and she forgive you, or when you ask her to do something in every day life that she doesn’t beleive in but she do anyway cause you asked

  50. Commercial-Name-3602 Avatar

    If you wake up the next morning and your face looks like a glazed donut and your mustache looks like a dried out paint brush.

  51. GriffinSinclair5 Avatar

    You just ask afterwards. “You liked that?”

  52. Super-Duper-Super Avatar

    Send out a post sex survey monkey? 

  53. Stabinzee Avatar

    Many years ago when I was a younger lad I had a girl tell me, between breaths, you-fuck-good. I’ll never forget that because it’ll most likely never happen again.

  54. AwesomeDadMarkus Avatar

    Did she place a sticker on your forehead?

    Was there a lot of fluids in the bed when you finished? Did you need a change of bedding?

    Did she appear to relax or become more engaged during the experience?

    Are you now receiving stitches in your shoulder, back or buttocks because she bit or dug too deep with her nails?

    Was the lords name taken in vain?

    Did she have a full body seizure at least once during the exchange?

    Did she want to cuddle after and burry her head into your chest?

    In my experience, if she does any or multiple of these things then you managed to ring the bell and you may now choose any prize from the bottom shelf.

  55. secret_idenity Avatar

    Do like Austin Powers and keep a 9mm automatic under ya pillow. You’d be good.

  56. ExogamousUnfolding Avatar

    They usually tell you

  57. isoAntti Avatar

    You don’t get comforted afterwards, that “it’s ok, you have a nice personality”

  58. eveythingistheatre Avatar

    If you’re a guy and the girl has made a pool on your bed then you’ve done something right.

  59. BaronDoctor Avatar

    There was a while I was okay but made it really bad for my wife. Then I got a CPAP and stopped snoring and she was able to sleep too.

  60. victoria12_21 Avatar

    If you’re not afraid to ask your partner about that.

  61. Mattsmith712 Avatar

    They tell you so.

  62. staticdissonance Avatar

    You notice and respond to cues.
    You communicate.
    You don’t rely on your own assumptions (or opinions of strangers) to determine what is “good” or “bad” sex. One persons yuck is another’s yum (and vice versa).

    Better to keep the focus off of your performance anyways. Even in some of the best instances, sex can still be awkward, messy and imperfect.

  63. Legoking Avatar

    If a hookup keeps asking for sex even months later, I think that’s a good sign.

  64. throwaway69542 Avatar
  65. nocappuccinoafter12 Avatar

    Think of the other person’s body as an instrument. If you can make beautiful sounds come out of it, you can be sure you’re good at it 🤭

  66. Hulkslam3 Avatar

    You get asked to come back for more

  67. SoilSpirited14 Avatar

    They tell me

    They keep coming back

    They cum

  68. Happy_Hippos0301 Avatar

    My ex told me she only stayed with me because of how good the sex was. I’m still riding that high 5 years later.

  69. homardpoilu Avatar

    I can fall asleep in less than 5 minutes in bed. That’s pure excellence!

  70. ReturnOfTheExile Avatar

    in my experience if you rock the girls world they will tell you there and then. bonus point if you go into your local supermarket and her older sister sais ” my sister sais your amazing in bed”

  71. nmarttt Avatar

    For me (and this has almost always reigned true) ….. if you cannot grasp how to properly kiss, well, do I have not so surprising news for you.

  72. HalfSoul30 Avatar

    They say it, and they come back over again. After enough times of that, you come to understand that you do, in fact, got it.

  73. Trick_Breadfruit8917 Avatar
    • When shes taking pictures of the bed and sending it to her friends

    • shes crawling into the bathroom

    • crazy in love eyes staring at you in disbelief

    • she’s gonna text you constantly

  74. littleflowerpuzy Avatar
  75. Crazy_Score_8466 Avatar

    When they keep coming back for more and often. Obviously you must be doing something right.

  76. s73v3m4nn Avatar

    I’m very good in bed. Straight to sleep, no mucking about and no reading by torchlight under the covers.

  77. Orquiita Avatar

    When I wake up and have a lot of energy, I know I’m good in bed.

  78. Orion_2kTC Avatar

    Did she cum first? Mission accomplished.

  79. Dominant_Peach Avatar

    Unfortunately, if you have to ask, you might already have your answer… 😂 However, there is definitely a communication barrier on both sides and what works for one person, certainly doesn’t always work for another.

  80. Itchy_Pudding_9940 Avatar

    Good yelp reviews. Like Duh!

  81. FloppyVachina Avatar

    Does she orgasm everytime and not fake it? If so, you are good in bed.

  82. KingSwope Avatar

    People that you are breaking up with say it as a reason you should stay together. Always was self-conscious about it and thought i was bad at it until that happened.

  83. mexicandaddyyy Avatar

    Listen you as a man have to be confident within yourself and you’ll eventually A see a bunch of woman flock in or if your moderate you’ll land here or there you’ll never know until you go for it

  84. ryguymcsly Avatar

    Whether you’re talking about sleep or sex the same is true: the aftermath.

    If you and your partner(s) are exhausted, a little punch drunk giggly, and in the warm fuzzy space…congrats you’re good at sex.

    If you wake up refreshed, you’re good at sleep.

  85. TheOriginalWarLord Avatar

    When they’re so spent from orgasms that they can’t move and you haven’t cum yet.

  86. Classyhairball Avatar

    If you have men chasing you then you know you

  87. khardy101 Avatar

    I give out a survey.

  88. FatihDurukan187 Avatar

    Good in bed depends on so many things..

  89. hardglans Avatar

    Do you pleasure your partner ? Ladies first !

  90. Ahhmyface Avatar

    They’ll tell you.

  91. Secret-Weakness-8262 Avatar

    Is everybody in the bed happy? Then you’re good!

  92. Pristine_Noise1516 Avatar

    If the sheets are wet.

  93. attila_molnar Avatar

    That’s what she said

  94. PirateJohn75 Avatar

    Get an Ouro ring

  95. 0zzkarV4 Avatar

    If youre spontaneous not afraid to try something new and if you talk dirty

  96. Cletus612Bob Avatar

    If he goes you did good ladies don’t need to be good in bed honestly unless it’s girl on girl I can’t speak for that. Now if it’s guy on gal which I’m assuming on account of asking this question I was told if she’s wide awake after you left her wanting more if she passes out you did good if she’s a white lady probably gonna have a red glow almost in her face and hips. A partner that is constantly asking to try something new with you or mentioning toys specially early on in your sexual relationship is probably a good sign that you could use some improvement.

  97. Sensitive_Budget4968 Avatar

    I bring out the hot wheels and tech decks and we have a fuckin blast!

  98. LordHy Avatar

    Assume that you are not and try to be better. It takes 10 thousand hours too master a craft, if you are naturally good, then you are good compared to others, not yourself, as your potential is greater.

    So count the hours, and work hard at getting to that coveted 10k, then you will know!

  99. DumbButKindaFunny Avatar

    If people initiate sex with you

  100. green-flavored-pizza Avatar

    Well my ex told me even after our huge fight that “well the sex was good at least” and my current girl used to ask me “why is the sex so good?” So that kind of helped.

  101. Vermonter-in-Exile Avatar

    You don’t fall out of it. 😇

  102. Rroytje Avatar

    If you get a message at 4am ‘hey what are you doing’

  103. TrinityF Avatar

    They refuse to take payments and keep coming for more.

  104. MrMschief Avatar

    My pansexual partner told me that I fuck like a woman. Probably the best compliment I’ve ever received.

    If you don’t understand why that is a compliment to a man, then you’re probably bad in bed.

  105. User_Error1975 Avatar

    If you need to change the sheets afterwards 😂

  106. East-Translator8293 Avatar

    When you make her leg twitch uncontrollably.

    She falls asleep before you after sex.

  107. -Tigg- Avatar

    If you ask your partner what they enjoy, listen to the answers and at least try your best to do that (within reason of your own limits) then you are good in bed.

    No one likes exactly the same thing. What’s Fantastic for one person is the worst experience for another. So communication and taking the time to learn each other is the key to good times

  108. PretendSoil3316 Avatar

    Seven hours is ideal, but I suppose six will do.

  109. Torqi86 Avatar

    If no one yells at you to get out of it, you are good in bed.

  110. Southern_Database_61 Avatar

    She keeps letting you fuck her brains out

  111. Big-Carpenter7921 Avatar

    Multiple orgasms tells me that I’m at least okay

  112. NoogaShooter Avatar

    After it is over she lays there shaking all over and almost catatonic. Then the next day she is requesting the same.

  113. Meet_the_Meat Avatar

    If you’re not exclusive, her friends start flirting with you

  114. Errlyagain Avatar

    If you get a follow up appointment

  115. Devilhunter553 Avatar

    When all your partners are shaking afterwards

  116. FA-TH-UR Avatar

    They ask me to keep coming back and I’m consistently making them orgasm with my oral skills because lord knows my dick isn’t enough to get the job done alone lol

  117. Fly_Guy_UK Avatar

    You are only as good as your partner(s).
    If they are as enthusiastic as you, then generally all is good.

  118. Mac2311 Avatar

    They want more regularly

  119. DeepBlue_8 Avatar

    When you wake up in the morning feeling refreshed. I wish that would happen more often.

  120. ItsSlinky2x Avatar

    There is a second and a third and a fourth time.

  121. Mind_Runes Avatar

    When your ex tells you that you are after you broke up.

  122. rhinokick Avatar

    Ask your wife’s boyfriend, he will know for sure. You can also go to him for tips on how to please your wife.

  123. TempAcc64 Avatar

    When she can’t stop smiling and won’t keep her hands off you.

  124. Firm-Emotion Avatar

    Does she squirt or get extremely wet, some females have a hard time getting wet. Can you feel her vagina convulsing.

    Men, they get obsessed

  125. Idontdanceforfun Avatar

    If they tell you it was swell

  126. Sequence32 Avatar

    Them women and men I’ve been with have all told me. The first few people I assumed were just being nice, but when every partner is always saying how good you are in bed and how well you pay attention to their needs, you believe them.

  127. scottyuk30 Avatar

    When the neighbours also have a cigarette after you’ve finished

  128. Professional-Edge925 Avatar

    You wouldn’t be asking.

  129. Environmental_Main21 Avatar

    I read this as “How do you know if you are in a good bed”
    what a surprise when I started reading all the comments 😬

  130. Kooky-Ad-4322 Avatar

    So many comments say ‘they keep coming back’. This isn’t always true. Only 1 man has ever made me finish out of 23. There’s several men I’ve gone back to and trust me it wasn’t because they were good. It’s because I craved intimacy and it was better than nothing

  131. PM5k Avatar

    She fills out the feedback survey every time and gives me 5 stars. 

  132. fufu1260 Avatar

    I don’t know if this concludes I’m good in bed but I have a FWB who I’ve been off and on with for so long and he just recently stopped fucking a girl so he could fuck me.

  133. Hanyabull Avatar

    If she lets you play a second time, you probably ain’t all that bad.

  134. OutsideAdvisor9847 Avatar

    They’ll tell you

  135. Swagsohard145 Avatar

    When you dick her so good she says she can’t feel her toes

  136. Mo_Jack Avatar

    What I always thought was funny was when some men bragged about their prowess in bed, they would say things about how women were always begging them for more. You can read that several ways including they wanted more size or the guy finished way too soon. But either way, I wouldn’t be bragging about it.

  137. Illlogik1 Avatar

    I’ve been told by multiple partners that I am. All it really takes to be good for a heterosexual male is to enthusiastically perform oral and learn how to improve this skill and cater to each individual partner, as their preferences will vary slightly but the main thing is that you do it and be excited and enthusiastic while doing it – never had a disappointed customer from using and developing this skill alone.

  138. Steve-XC Avatar

    She leaves me 5 stars on tripadvisor and says she’ll recommend me to a friend.

  139. tehfraginator Avatar

    Put out comment cards

  140. saucytopcheddar Avatar

    Here’s a big secret: ask them what they like.

    If they say something like, “do what you did last time”… you’re probably good. If they start telling you what they want… you’ll learn how to be good.

    It’s almost like communication, and paying attention, is a key part of a relationship.

  141. Tommy_Roboto Avatar

    Return customers, so to speak, and referrals.

  142. HistorysWitness Avatar

    I think the best indicator is if you have alot of one night stands.  If you do. Then you probably aren’t very good or even a good personality.   If someone really likes it they always get back together for more adult time. 

  143. dthoma81 Avatar

    Genuine compliments and other things people will tell you. Had one person say “green flag” when I did a few things I did during our romp. I’ve gotten “best sex of my life” from a long term partner. Had one person comment how “sexually compatible” we were and sent nudes unprompted afterward. Another partner nicknamed me EE for exceeds expectations. That said, everyone ain’t for everybody and I’ve had plenty of women not come back for a second or third because I’m just not built to do the thing they need, a dom. I’ve never enjoyed being imposing but greatly enjoy a mutually beneficial back and forth.

  144. Active-Strawberry-37 Avatar

    If she involuntarily switches to her native language halfway through, you know you’re doing something right.

  145. horderBopper Avatar

    Ur gonna get told and bothered and never left alone

  146. Lorbmick Avatar

    I get invited back.

  147. sick-dying-girl Avatar

    when you don’t have to ask

  148. interesseret Avatar

    Return customers are a pretty clear sign.

  149. pasgames_ Avatar

    Look in the corner of your screen to see if it’s saying bad good amazing or perfect like In a rhythm game

  150. A_WHIRLWIND_OF_FILTH Avatar

    Easy: There’s never a second time. They leave so satisfied, they don’t need Round 2 😎

  151. EKAAfives Avatar

    i wake up in the morning well rested