So me and my gf had some rough patches at the beginning of our relationship. A lot of it involved her telling me too much about her exes and a lot of it involved me asking too much out of morbid curiosity I guess. I learned tho that knowing too much is more harmful to my well being especially when she’s been more than generous with the details, so I stopped asking. Well, last night we got into it and I brought up how hurt I am about the things she’s said (she rated an ex 12/10 in regards to sex and when I told her she thought of another ex as a god tier bf she agreed). Well, in the middle of talking she said there’s nothing to worry about in regards to another ex who was problematic at the beginning of seeing her and she wanted to explain why. I told her to go ahead and tell me, then I stopped myself and thought about how much knowing these things has hurt me in the past so I told her I’m setting a boundary that I no longer want to be her therapist in regards to her ex. I have no business knowing and I told think it’s going to be more harmful than helpful. She got hurt by this because she wanted to tell me that he’s changed in a negative way and wanted me to know why, but I really don’t care anymore. I just don’t wanna hear about it anymore. I don’t think I was an asshole about it. I was just very blunt that I’m over hearing about any of them. At all. Do you think I’m ok setting that boundary?
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She has no common sense.
Not even a boundary you should need to set
date someone more mature lmao.
Boundaries are for you dude, they are your personal limits.
But you shouldn’t really need to tell your partner that you dont want to hear about the 12/10 God tier in bed ex.
Thats just disrespectful, and unnecessary.
How long have you been together, dependant on length of relationship, this could be way worse