My sister wants to come to my house when she visits my city to save money(and she has small children who’ve literally ruined my belongings when visited lol ) But when I visit I have to get the bare minimum. Won’t even make sure I have clean sheets or the bed made .
SO NO! I REFUSE to let her come to my home even though I visit her sometimes , I can’t even last 48 hours with drama … she asks me and I DENY DENY DENY, she thinks it’s don’t cause i ALLOW my mother visits , but my mother doesn’t destroy my belongings .
She won’t even buy my cheap veggies cause I can’t eat what they eat (I know I can get it myself but it’s hospitable if she did)
When people come to my house which is extremely rare , I host them the first day and then they know wherever thing is cool.. but I always make sure the bed is made up and I make sure I have food for them for a few days which is fair .
I tried working back at home , considering moving home to rent my House cause that state pays better . Unfortunately, her kids would wake me up at 5am and if she’s not there , 6am for food. I stay up until early morning cause I had two gig jobs at the time & needed my sleep, and she didn’t care ! I couldn’t sleep the whole time. So I quit my gig work and went back home !!!
So NO, I don’t want you to come to my house and also she has destructive nature in our past where I don’t trust what she’ll do if she’s having a bad day to my home !
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My sister wants to come to my house when she visits my city to save money(and she has small children who’ve literally ruined my belongings when visited lol ) But when I visit I have to get the bare minimum. Won’t even make sure I have clean sheets or the bed made .
She won’t even buy my cheap veggies cause I can’t eat what they eat (I know I can get it myself but it’s hospitable if she did)
When people come to my house which is extremely rare , I host them the first day and then they know wherever thing is cool.. but I always make sure the bed is made up and I make sure I have food for them for a few days which is fair .
I tried working back at home , considering moving home to rent my House cause that state pays better . Unfortunately, her kids would wake me up at 5am and if she’s not there , 6am for food. I stay up until early morning cause I had two gig jobs at the time & needed my sleep, and she didn’t care ! I couldn’t sleep the whole time. So I quit my gig work and went back home !!!
So no, I don’t want you to come to my house and also she has destructive nature in our past where I don’t trust what she’ll do if she’s having a bad day to my home !
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Uh, NTA, though you might want to consider getting help writing, because it don’t parse no good, my friend.
Your sister’s kids have a better track record of destruction than a wrecking ball at a porcelain factory. Stick to your NO.
NTA. No is a complete sentence. They aren’t good guests and don’t respect you.
NTA. Your home is your sanctuary. Protect it.
Sounds like when your sister “vacations” at your home, she believes you’re the nanny, cook, maid and tour guide. She’s just your sister.
NTA
It’s your home, and your call who is invited to it. You don’t need any reason to say “no”. (Although you certainly have some excellent reasons here!)