Im (32F) we been together for 3.5 years and we have a 9 month old baby. Im sick to my stomach and I have been real quiet these past two days , I’m normally bubbly and always up and playing music. But the house has tension and it’s because my bf has a fake ig account and he only follows his step sister. Isn’t that weird????? I’m breaking my head and losing sleep because I really do feel this is the deal breaker for me. I don’t trust him as it is , and now I have to be paranoid that he might of slept w his step sister in the past or is lustful over her. If he’s lustful over his sister that he was raised with since they were 7 , I don’t even want to bring my own sisters around anymore. I don’t bring friends around him bc he left me at 8 months pregnant for a mutual acquaintance. It’s been a year of chaos and I’m so sick of it. He still hangs out with the home wreckers ex bro in law , I’m just always having anxiety , always waiting for what’s next , never just happy. We don’t have sex as much bc he has an only fans and porn addiction. I’m just really mentally checking out right now chat. It took for this IG account to make me realize , he has a serious problem and needs help on his own. I’m so done and tapped out. What do you think. ?? #gross #done
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> I don’t trust him as it is
That’s what really matters. No trust, no relationship. You have a child with him, so you need to figure out a way to coparent and make sure the needs of your child come before any drama between the two of you. Step up and do the right thing – both of you.
sounds to me like the issues are far deeper than the IG account. is he lustful for his step sister? sure, maybe. but more importantly you don’t trust him, he prioritizes porn habits over his relationship, and it doesn’t sound like he’s been loyal or here for you with the pregnancy thing.
if this is real, you’ve put up with far too much for far too long and I can’t imagine why you haven’t left him by now
Extremely strange behaviour especially in the context of a porn addiction.
I’ve had multiple boyfriends do a lot, and I mean a lot, of weird shit that I let slide and looking back I have no idea why other than that I was just desperate to be chosen and say I have a boyfriend. I don’t recognize that version of myself anymore. Idk if that’s the case for you but if it truly isn’t you’d have an easier time walking away from someone who isn’t serving you that you never really trusted to begin with. When men do weird shit start believing them for who they’re showing you they are and dip. He’s probably some porn brained freak who is obsessed with his step sister in some way and if I were you I’d leave him and then let her and maybe even his parents know anonymously from a burner account that her step brother is creeping on her under that username and she needs to block it. Weird to assume she would also be in on it or have slept with him, this is all on him. Leave, make a plan to stay with family or find somewhere safe to go, go safely while he’s at work.
Read this asap: https://ia801407.us.archive.org/6/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf
Follow your instincts. This guy is a creep.
Chances are it won’t get better. Trust your gut.
That’s really weird….if you’re already uncomfortable and don’t trust him, that’s not exactly a good omen
Honey, the man left you at 8-mos pregnant….why are you with him at all?
Just reading the title. This is really fucking weird.
Leave that creep like yesterday. You only have one kid together. Don’t wait until you have 2 more. Leave NOW!