Original post – https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/s/alaoCtgIEt
Somewhat anticlimactic update but like y’all said we ended up buying out his portion of the house, and me and my sister got all of the items of sentimental value or that we just liked since he was down to pretty much take whatever else.
I overestimated how much 1/3 was honestly, and although the buyout was costly, and I was pretty bitter about it leading up to the inheritance. It truly wasn’t an insane amount and we got it handled easily.
Our Half Brother was pretty cordial about it too surprisingly. He asked us a ton a ton of random backstory questions, but it wasn’t a stressful screaming and crying estate split at all haha. After everything was split we said goodbye.
According to my Aunt he secured a new place to stay near her (about 10 minutes away from us,) so good for him. So I might just see him around town on my own which tbh I hate how awkward that’d be but nonetheless, everything went well.
I will admit I slightly overreacted in the original post but in all fairness who wouldnt in my situation so I don’t blame myself too much
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What is sad is how your father and family abandoned this young person and then felt offended when he tried to reach out periodically.
At least you had both parents to support you and your sister growing up. He didn’t.
Perhaps take a moment to reflect on how you’ve excluded him because of something he had no control over.
He didn’t make your dad get his mom pregnant.
He was a young kid with no dad trying to reach out to the other half of his family and constantly being rejected.
Not saying you have to do anything with this but perhaps just reflect on it.
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Thanks for the update. Looking at the situation from his perspective, he’s probably been robbed of a normal, loving childhood.
Glad you did the right thing in the end. I decent human being would not have reacted how you did in the original post, they would have realized this was a young man that was abandoned by their father and his family and treated as an outcast simply because his father decided to get back together with his first wife rather than the woman he got pregnant. Please tell me your dad at least paid child support even if he wasn’t a part of this child’s life?
I’d like to chime in to agree, you are an asshole. I feel really bad for your half sibling. 🙁
Yeah still the YTA. Congrats on doing the minimally right thing. Hope you don’t become a parent ever.
YTA – in all fairness…you are holding something this young man had no control over against him.
You were an asshole and your dad did wrong by him. Your dad wasn’t even worth your mom when he got the other woman pregnant and the boy grew up without a present parent and you thought that was okay.
I hope you don’t condone those types of actions in the future.
I would have voted YTA on your original post.
Your father died intestate and your half brother was entitled to 1/3 of the estate. Legally you had no grounds to deny him that. He was entitled to his share.
Morally you were an AH too. You had no right to be bitter at a young man claiming his rightful inheritance. Your father abandoned him.
I’m glad you realized you had no choice and everything is settled now.
Did anyone ever get a DNA test to confirm he’s your father’s son?
As otherwise you handed money over to a stranger
YTA. You’re still an AH, but the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. You’re your father’s son for sure. Best of luck to your half brother that he finds love and support in his adult life. But you won I guess? Enjoy wallowing in your meaningless trinkets.