Backstory, I work for my mother in law and have for two years. I just quit and gave a months notice because I didn’t enjoy talking about work at home, and because I am going down a different career path. For the purposes of this post, she is gonna be referred to as Boss. I am Me.
When I quit, I have a month notice, boss asked if I could work one extra day because they were going to be out of town. I agreed. Yesterday was that extra day, and I started by cleaning out my desk, and removing my personal belongings from the job.
I let boss know (who it out of town as said above) that I cleaned out my desk and was ready to organize our back room because it’s a mess and I wanted to make it easier for them to continue the work that I was doing. Boss told me instead of doing that, to train an employee on tasks I was not aware I was supposed to train them on, and get my computer reset for the next person to use it.
That process took the 4 hours I had on my last day, I had no more time to do what I had planned on originally.
Boss is now angry at me and calling me disrespectful because I didn’t do “what I said I was going to” and sent me pictures of things not tidied up and rearranged. Again, yes it was my plan, but plans changed when I was given new orders on what to do.
So, people of the AITA Community, AITA for not cleaning up on my last day of work?
(This is merely for my own anxiety reasons, as I’m obviously not gonna share this with anyone)
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Backstory, I work for my mother in law and have for two years. I just quit and gave a months notice because I didn’t enjoy talking about work at home, and because I am going down a different career path. For the purposes of this post, she is gonna be referred to as Boss. I am Me.
When I quit, I have a month notice, boss asked if I could work one extra day because they were going to be out of town. I agreed. Yesterday was that extra day, and I started by cleaning out my desk, and removing my personal belongings from the job.
I let boss know (who it out of town as said above) that I cleaned out my desk and was ready to organize our back room because it’s a mess and I wanted to make it easier for them to continue the work that I was doing. Boss told me instead of doing that, to train an employee on tasks I was not aware I was supposed to train them on, and get my computer reset for the next person to use it.
That process took the 4 hours I had on my last day, I had no more time to do what I had planned on originally.
Boss is now angry at me and calling me disrespectful because I didn’t do “what I said I was going to” and sent me pictures of things not tidied up and rearranged. Again, yes it was my plan, but plans changed when I was given new orders on what to do.
So, people of the AITA Community, AITA for not cleaning up on my last day of work?
(This is merely for my own anxiety reasons, as I’m obviously not gonna share this with anyone)
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NTA, she either can’t read or has unreasonable expectations.
NTA, she was already angry, and this is her excuse to be angry with you.
“Hey remember when I told you I was going to do that and you told me to train X and wipe my computer instead?”
NTA.
NTA- I’ve had employers like this, but she told you not to do those things so you could instead prioritize the other tasks. You did what you could, and it’s unreasonable to expect you to suddenly work overtime or stay late with no notice.
NTA. She’s mad you’re leaving.
NTA. The notion of someone telling you that you failed to a do a job you quit makes me giggle.
Twas the point!
NTA. MIL is being petty and ridiculous. Go in peace and worry no more.
You worked an extra day, that itself is a favor. The boss knew you couldn’t train a new employee, reset the computer and clean out the back room in a single working day. Let them be mad. You are NTA absolutely
NTA.
You’re paid for a job and to be present. Show up, do the work you’re paid for, leave.
If that company had to fire you with 0 days notice. they would. They would have no anxiety about it.
I suggest you DO share this post with her. She obviously forgot she told u to do the other things instead.
I think this all could have been handled with more foresight. Why wasn’t training and transition accounted for in the month you all knew you’d be leaving?
Obviously there is only so much that can be done on a single day. You did the thing your boss asked you to prioritize. It’s weird for her to later act surprised or disappointed you didn’t do the thing she suggested was a lower priority. I guess she thought you’d be able to do both but that’s not really how the convo went.
Ultimately though, it sounds like you didn’t really begin ‘transition’ activities until your last day and maybe that’s part of the problem.
And, obviously, there are some significant questions that come to mind, that may also be playing a role, as to your relationship with your MIL/boss, how she took your decision to leave work, etc. etc. etc. but I’ll go NTA for the specific situation at hand, though I think the lack of planning is problematic.
Good heavens, MIL/Boss is a toxic witch.
Send that heifer an email reminding her that she changed your work assignment for the day by ordering you to do new and different tasks. Also remind her that you added a day past your notice date just for her.
Do you have to ever see her again….
You are so much NTA.
NTA. Your last day is your last day.
ESH. It’s family. General rules don’t apply. Was MIL employing you more to help you, or more to help her?
NTA
No longer your circus, no longer your monkeys. Seems like you did more than most would on their last day.
Nta. You can not win with the Boss. If would have trained and still cleaned up, Boss would find something else to try to humiliate you.
NTA
NTA. You didn’t have time to do what you said you would because your boss had you do something else instead. Boss apparently forgot that you don’t have the magical power to add additional hours to the day to get other stuff done.
NTA, just say “MIL, now that I no longer work for you, let’s focus on having a positive MIL/DIL relationship going forward.” If she won’t let it drop, say something like “You have it in your mind that I didn’t do something I said I would do. You seem to conveniently forget that you, the boss, told me to do something else. I won’t apologize for doing what you told me to do. That’s on you.” Just repeat that if necessary.
Sounds like Boss wanted you to work more hours than previously agreed to on your last day. You did the tasks she asked of you at the cost of you not organizing the storage room. She probably already had a bee up her bottom and no matter what you did would find something to complain about. Hopefully she is mature enough to not let Boss interfere with being your MIL. Enjoy your new job and don’t let this situation bring you down. You are NTA.
NTA.
You told your boss what you planned on doing and she gave you a different task. That is on her.
You no longer work for them so celebrate and put it behind you, look forward to the new opportunities.
It was boss’s job to organize a transition during the month of notice that you gave her. She could have simply given you a list of items to get done during your notice period. She’s whining because she failed to do her part and now she has to fix the mess she created. You are not the asshole here she is.
NTA. You followed boss’s orders. It’s her fault it did they done
NTA.
You said you were ready to do it. They told you not to because something else was more important. Time is finite and it ran out. They don’t get to say that you’re disrespectful for not working extra hours at a point when you technically no longer worked for the company.
They on the other hand did disrespect you and your time by just expecting you to do extra hours like that.
NTA.
I would respond that THEY told you to train employee instead so you didn’t have time.
NTA. Leaving a little “parting gift” of your own is a time-honored tradition. They can consider the mess your final invoice for the unpaid emotional labor.
NTA. And you made the right decision to leave that job! When your boss changes your orders and then ‘forgets’ it spells chaos. Not a reliable boss.
NTA
This isn’t about you cleaning up.
She’s hidden her anxieties about you leaving, personal feelings about you leaving her etc.
She’s been unable to express her feelings for one reason or another. But now it’s real, you really are gone, and she’s expressing her state of mind but not able to understand her own inner child feelings of rejection.
If she’s toxic or extremely narcissistic, then you have to hold your head high and brush off the guilt and blame. If she’s half reasonable, get her to sit next to you and talk her feelings through.
Xxx
What she gonna do, fire you?
Best of luck on your next adventure!