My mom is seriously driving me crazy. I went back to my hometown this past weekend and stayed at her house overnight (since I live out of town). Around dinner, my best friend from high school picked me up so we could go grab food. She’s been driving her grandpa’s old truck lately because her car is having issues. Well, I just found out that my mom actually called my fiancé and told him I “got in some truck with a guy and drove off.” 😂 Like… first of all, that’s so not me. Second, why wouldn’t she just ask me instead of jumping to conclusions? Am I overreacting, or is that totally weird of her?
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My mom is seriously driving me crazy. I went back to my hometown this past weekend and stayed at her house overnight (since I live out of town). Around dinner, my best friend from high school picked me up so we could go grab food. She’s been driving her grandpa’s old truck lately because her car is having issues. Well, I just found out that my mom actually called my fiancé and told him I “got in some truck with a guy and drove off.” 😂 Like… first of all, that’s so not me. Second, why wouldn’t she just ask me instead of jumping to conclusions? Am I overreacting, or is that totally weird of her?
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> I might be the asshole because from her perspective, she might feel like she was just looking out for my fiancé and thought she was protecting him. I’m wondering if I’m in the wrong for being so upset at her and not understanding her intentions
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Did you not… tell her since you were staying with her that you were going to catch up with a friend?
That’s very, very weird of your mom. It seems like she’s trying to turn your fiance against you or win favors with him, or likes stirring the pot.
Pretty messed up to be honest. You should probably be looking at limiting contact with her and I hope your fiance knows better than to be influenced by someone who appears to want to cause you and your relationship harm.
Even if your mom was trying to ‘protect’ your fiance as your ‘why I might be the AH’ states, her actions really don’t make any sense. This is far more about causing harm to you.
Is there anything in your history that would make her feel like she needs to look out for him? NTA pending more info because this is just bizarre.
Serious red flag. No joke. This was super inappropriate of her to do, and I would immediately put her in her place and tell her if she does it again, there’s gonna be issues that she doesn’t want. Hopefully you’re not dependent on her, and are able to actually do this. Good luck.
This is one of those moments when you take a pic of you and your friend making WTF faces? and text it to your mom.
My guess is she doesn’t like your fiance and is trying to break you up. NTA
Did you like I don’t know ask her? Has she done anything to like spite your relationship before?
Does your mom have a history of trying to fuck things up for you?
NTA
Your mom is jealous and/or hates your fiance, and is looking to break up your relationship.
Need to talk to your fiance, and firmly rebuke your mother’s interference. Giant red flag for your future marriage
Weird maybe she was annoyed that you went out.
NTA.
I have a different perspective of what your mom’s motivation might be. She may value the man’s role in any relationship more so than the woman, even her daughter’s. That was my mom’s take on relationships.
So what was your mom’s explanation when you asked her about it? Because it kinda seems weird that you’d be asking strangers about it before questioning your mom….
Mom is not your ride or die
NTA- but your mom is.