Bf (19M) Says he loves me wants a future with me planned trips with me wants me til he’s old. But doesnt know my last name even though they have my email. Tbf i hate my name so out of respect he didnt ask more. But I did say my full name once on a call. He also only knows my nickname even though I told him my full first name. I know its realistic he wouldnt know it but I had a bit of an expectation that he did knew somehow. Or tried to know at least because I didnt really try to conceal it. Which is wrong on my part because I did tell him I dont like it. Why am I like this? Another thing thats bothering me is theres not a lot of follow up questions in our conversations. Like if i tell him my favorite horror game is this he doesnt ask more. I think its both a difference in personality/communication style but it might also just be that hes not that into me as a person and more like a gf.
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Here’s my take as an oldish fart (44M). Through my life, I have discovered that people are generally not psychic, and need to be communicated with so they know what is important to their partner
If love is genuine, it will persevere due to the effort of both people involved. if not, it won’t.
So the problem here is, how does he know he loves you if he doesn’t even know you? This points to love bombing. He could be unhealthy mentally.
I personally dint care about this. Imagin you get rushed the the hospital he comes to the desk says I’m looking for my girlfriend on her name oh her whole name yeah give me a min I’ll search for it……