So last week I hooked up with a guy I’m seeing. I didn’t expect to sleep with him that night since I usually wait quite a few dates but it happend. Because I didn’t expect it to and I’m not sleeping with anyone else, I was pretty hairy. He seemed to be pretty into it and came really fast, like REALLY fast. But I was so hairy like everywhere and I feel like it was unattractive. For context I’m Indian so I am hairier than the average girl and have hair in places girls of other races don’t but I’ll usually take care of it. He is white and I feel like is not used to seeing that much. Like it was bad😭 So for the men, would this turn you off? He has seen me in a bikini when I was not like this and I warned him that I didn’t shave.
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Would it turn me off? Yes.
Did it turn him off? Doesn’t sound like it.
Would it turn off the many men I see in happy relationships with hairy women? Obviously not.
Did he shave?
It’s completely natural to have hair as human being. Shaving is a trend. You can follow it or not.
As a brown hairy girl with a white husband speaking from personal experience if he seemed into it he was probably into it. I have gone months without shaving or waxing anything and my husband is still all over me.
If he’s attracted to you part of that might actually be the unique body hair. Exotic. He came fast, made no complaints, I’d say you’re in the clear. The only time a girl’s body hair really botheres me is when it’s covering her clit. Fucking up my ability to get suction on her. Legs I admit I prefer shaved, that’s because I’m obsessed with running my hands over her legs & the hair fucks up the flow. Deep down I prefer no armpit hair. Not sure why on that one. Maybe societal.
Ask what he thinks about your coarse hair. He’ll either say he hasn’t noticed or it turns him on.
He’s into you and it was the first time you were up for sleeping with him: he wasn’t going to let a small issue get in the way of that… 😂
That said if it bothers you then just try to make sure you shave before the next date 😁
He probably thought you were hot, and the hair wasn’t an issue.
It doesn’t sound like he cared or noticed.
I wouldn’t give a f. Of course a nice trim is preferable, but not a necessity always. Like, if you forget, or don’t feel for a while to shave or at least trim, your choice. It is not the look I’d be after. It’s the sensation of intercourse 😉
ethnicities with long luscious hair on their heads also have long luscious hair everywhere else too. 💀 i get it as a jamaican girl lol. if he seemed into it and finished with no issue, you’re good girl !!
I mean, if it bothers him then doesn’t it kind of save you time in the long run?
Like I am a white dude with roots that mean I get hair all over. If I got with a girl and she got the ick from that then okay, we weren’t compatible. I’m not going to shave every inch of my body for the rest of my life just to delay upsetting people that dislike body hair.
Seems it had no impact in his willingness to do anything and if anything I suspect him being too into you might be a factor right now. But if he can’t deal with hairy you might as well deal with it now.
I’m sure he’s a lot hairier than you. I’m sure he doesn’t mind.
I haven’t shaved my privates in years. My fiance doesn’t care either. As long as you’re taking care of it, it shouldn’t matter. I just shave under my arms and sometimes my legs.
It might have mattered to him, but we can’t possibly tell you whether it mattered to him or not. Has he been ignoring you or responding to you less? Is there any other reason why you’re wondering if it bothered him? Even if so, there are many other reasons that he would be doing that, and many have nothing to do with who you are or how you look.
If he’s still keeping in contact with you the same as it was before, don’t sweat it. If he’s reducing contact, have the respect to leave him behind and don’t sweat it.
Nobody needs to be bald, girl, it’s all good. Clearly he didn’t care or even notice, so don’t over think it!
You could always communicate with him, sounds like he would reassure you and by the sounds of it tell you he’s into it.
You warned him. That’s more than most would have done. And he still went through with it, so how much could he possibly care
Having hair there is an adult sex characteristic soo I would hope, as an adult man, he likes you with it since youre an adult woman, you shouldnt have to worry about that stuff with someone you love
i’m literally a stripper and i don’t shave at all. Men who have a problem with it are not men- they’re little boys. And quite frankly i’ve had many men say that they prefer it in comparison to the opposite.
Seek love and security fully in yourself and you will never question a man’s attraction to you
Sounds like the least of your worries. I’d be more worried about the “REALLY fast”
Did he go down on you?
If not shave before the next date and see if he does.
Hairy legs I don’t care much about. I prefer shaven, but it’s ok if not. Pubic I prefer unshaved, but shaven is fine. Armpit I strongly prefer shaven. It wouldn’t be a dealbreaker if my woman has it, but I’d rather it be shaved. Facial hair is not a huge deal so long as there’s not a lot of it.
We’ve all got some hair. It’s natural. If it was better to have no body hair, it would evolve away. Instead, the hair on my head is evolving away! It sounds like it wasn’t a problem for him. Condom.
I’m marrying a Japanese woman whose culture isn’t big on shaving. I couldn’t care less. Sometimes she will shave to spice things up and those times are fun too. The important part is that I like her and enjoy sex with her. As long as she loves me and is having fun, I couldn’t give two shits what her grooming is like. Just make sure to fresh up before if you’ve been out all day, that goes for men as well.
In modern society its considered cleaner, not entirely necessary but if you’re sporting hairy legs and underarms its a red flag and very noticeable
Honestly, he’s probably at home disappointed with how fast he finished, and hasn’t given this a second thought.
Could be he was into it but I would say its more likely he is really into you and just indifferent to the hair. I would say the question you should ask yourself is, if he is really into hairier woman how do you feel about it.
Natural is better
For me and my wife, I told her as long as she dont go all wookie on me we good. But sone people including women dont find body hair on women hygienic so it depends on the person.
He only came once? Dude needs to up his game!
OP, don’t fret. On the margin, I (48M) prefer sexual partners with closely trimmed or no pubic hair, especially for cunning linguals. That said, it’s NEVER been a deal breaker and I always give it my best effort. It’s just that I get less distracted without hair down there.
(FWIW, I shave my own public hair 2x-3x per week; my GFs prefer it and it makes stewing in sweat after hot yoga feel slightly less gross.)
If you do choose to shave next time you bone 🦴, he’ll be pleasantly surprised!
Ugh, this is why the porn industry is a scourge on our society. Its very normal to have hair if you have gone through puberty. Its not gross. Imagine if it was the other way around. Even if you prefer a man to trim or shave and they didnt because they didn’t expect to have sex, how would you feel. Id bet big money you wouldn’t hold it against him or think badly about him. ANd girl….How fast? 🧐
If you usually tidy up down there, why don’t you tell him that the next time you hook up, you’ll be ready…that would turn him on for sure!!…and off topic, but did you mind that he came fast?
This post reminded me of that scouse lad saying “I used’t eat a lollipop off the carpet gurl, lie back”
As a guy: we do not care in the slightest, as long as you’re comfortable, and you’re having fun.
Some men don’t care about body hair. Some men like it very much and others insist on removing every last fiber. There is no easy answer to that.
If the guy you are seeing liked it then he liked it.
Also there is only a very small number of men who would rather not have sex than have sex with a girl that forgot to shave. And I’m convinved that you should discard those guys as partners right away.
I personally don’t care when where or if my wife shaves. She does it sometimes. It doesn’t change a thing.
If your dude came fast, you have zero reson to be insecure. But a good relationship is an open one where communication flows naturally. Talk to him about it 🙂
He seemed into it, came really fast and said anything bad about it. What are you even asking here lol. If he doesn’t like it he can communicate it, and even if he doesn’t you don’t owe it to him, let alone on your first hookup.
Girl, hair is sexy as fuck. Sounds like the only thing preventing you from enjoying yourself was your assumptions. If he doesn’t like it, that’s on him. Everyone has preferences, so it’s possible he may not have, but if he said nothing and finished quickly, I think it’s safe to say you’re hot enough for him.
Having hair is normal. I’m married now but I never expected girls to be totally hairless when I was dating. Some of them seemed pretty hung up about hair but i never cared.
You said he finished quickly. You’re fine.
If the sex was good it won’t turn him off. I’ve had both hairy and waxed Indian females. If you’re clean and performed well, you should be fine.
You answered your own question. He came fast. The guy liked what he saw. The simple solution is to ask if he has a preference. Ultimately, though, your body, and your choice. Sounds like he is really into you, so I suspect he’ll find you hot either way.
You’re defo overthinking the importance of body hair to men. This is definitely more of a ‘you’ issue than a ‘men’ issue.
How about you just ask him instead of some random strangers on reddit? Preferences about body hair are not race/location related.
Men who mind don’t matter, and the ones that matter don’t mind.
If a man freaks out over some peach fuzz, do you really want to sleep with him?
This dude likes you. Stop over thinking and go on a date.
You just wrote one sentence on how the sex was, and it sounds successful. If it was a turn off, he would have said something.
Also, every guy is different and maybe he’s one of them who either likes it or doesn’t care.
I have fair skin and dark hair so it really pops. Husband doesn’t care at all.
I have never had a man care. In fact, a grown man really SHOULDN’T care seeing as adults have body hair. In my experience, once they get that far with you they’re just happy to be there and take what they get. He was clearly super into you, and I wouldn’t be concerned.
take the win here!
you were yourself and he liked it.