Recently caught my kids mother talking to her ex on my birthday of all days we have a baby 11 months an I put her out the house she claims she did not meet up with him or have sex an was just talking only an from what I could tell at least 2 weeks maybe longer she is not from my state she is from the south an I’m from the north now my family is gone from one day to the next an I’m alone an as u can imagine thinking about forgiving her she expressed she’s sorry put on the whole show about how it was a mistake the usual get caught cheating routine people do so i made her stay with a friend for the weekend she comes back to clean up an stuff still trying to talk it out I check her phone she still has him added an still talking to him but still says how sorry she is an that made me even more mad so it confirmed my decision so i made her leave again for another night now telling her she has to go back to her state with her family she lives w me an has no one else here so she’s still trying to talk it out on the second day comes back again I Check her phone again she was still talking to him and talking down about me so I decided it was better for her to go. We’ve had our ups and downs but before that day I would of never thought she would do something like this she is still saying how sorry she is an she wants to be a family more then Anything an will do what ever it takes to get back to me I care about them so much it’s clouding my better judgment that I know she ain’t shit so now she’s there keep telling me how she’s depressed can’t eat can’t function making it sound good that she loves me an she’s sorry there’s a lot more disturbing details I can go into Need outside opinion?
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Was she talking about inappropriate stuff or flirting in these messages? If not, try to think of it this way.. They were just catching up and your gf had no romantic intentions in her head.
Even if that last one is the case, you should ask her to cut contact with him. Tell her how uncomfortable it makes you feel. She should be understanding of the fact it hurt you so much and want to cut contact for your sake. Because he’s just not that important to her it should be an easy decision. If she refuses to cut contact, ask that you can look at their texts anytime. Tell her it worries you how much it means to her.
Does she know why? It seems if she does she has some cognitive issues. Or does she feel her ex is worth losing her family over?
You need to have some solid boundaries with this ex. Esp talking about you is disrespectful and undermines your relationship. Cutting contact is obviously a nonnegotiable if she really wants this relationship to work. Absolute NC, no buts.
Idk what she was sayn past what I seen I had a feeling checked her phone an see a message that said baby from some guy like wtf found out it was her ex it was on snap she talking about they just send streaks that made me even more mad so I’m like oh you sending him pictures of you too?
She says that she’s sorry and one moment later she continues doing the exact thing she was sorry for. You know what that means, right? She isn’t sorry at all for doing what she did and she wants to continue doing it. She just hopes that by telling you that she’s sorry, that you will nod and not break up with her.
Paternity test buddy. Make sure it’s not his kid. She doesn’t love or respect you. You should dump her.
If she can’t stop talking to the dude after you’ve caught her repeatedly, then she’s not worth the trouble. I would have the kid DNA tested, she can’t let go of the ex for some reason and the kid MAY be that reason.
“It’s a lot harder to be walked on when you are standing up!”
Updateme
Always judge people by their actions not their excuses or promises.
She doesn’t sound like she is committed to you. She is with you because she needs a roof over her head.
Think of how much mature the person you can replace her with, will be.
This is incomprehensible. Break up.