I’m confused about toxic positivity basically.
My mom is a very negative person and often makes rude statements. Am I being toxically positive if I ask her to please stop being so negative and saying rude things?
Some examples that have happened –
Mom criticized my garden plant unprovoked saying it was ugly and I should remove it.
Mom tries to critique my parenting constantly.
Mom expresses negativity about a restaurant experience or how a service worker treated her and this is a regular occurrence that happens at many different businesses. She doesn’t necessarily do this in front of them though she just complains to me after
Mom complains about coworkers and how her work place is run regularly and won’t get a new job.
Mom is regularly moody and low key angry.
I don’t really want to deal with these things. It’s like a dark cloud of negativity that blocks all the sunlight and brings down my mood.
Am I being toxically positive though to expect that the people I spend time with are generally positive? What is reasonable to expect? I know people have bad days and people are allowed to feel negative feelings and complain about things I just don’t know where the line is I guess