For context I’m normally a very laid back guy and don’t have anger issues, I usually have to put up with a lot before I become confrontational. On my way home I got off the bus which just missed my stop, I was hot and bothered and exhausted then came this dude riding up behind me on an electric bike who didn’t even have a proper bell just made some ridiculous beeping/alarm noise that I couldn’t hear over the sound of wind and traffic so I ended up blocking the path because I wasn’t aware of his presence and he said “seriously mate” and rode off shaking his head repeatedly… yep, that was the final straw. I went into a rage yelling at the top of my lungs “WHAT?!!!” “how the fuck am I meant to know get a proper bell you fucking dickhead” then yelled out once more “dickhead!” He didn’t even look back just rode away… I now feel bad and regretful for becoming so aggressive but I guess I just snapped. Am I the asshole here?
Comments
^^^^AUTOMOD Thanks for posting! READ THIS COMMENT – DO NOT SKIM. This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything.
For context I’m normally a very laid back guy and don’t have anger issues, I usually have to put up with a lot before I become confrontational. On my way home I got off the bus which just missed my stop, I was hot and bothered and exhausted then came this dude riding up behind me on an electric bike who didn’t even have a proper bell just made some ridiculous beeping/alarm noise that I couldn’t hear over the sound of wind and traffic so I ended up blocking the path because I wasn’t aware of his presence and he said “seriously mate” and rode off shaking his head repeatedly… yep, that was the final straw. I went into a rage yelling at the top of my lungs “WHAT?!!!” “how the fuck am I meant to know get a proper bell you fucking dickhead” then yelled out once more “dickhead!” He didn’t even look back just rode away… I now feel bad and regretful for becoming so aggressive but I guess I just snapped. Am I the asshole here?
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> I became extremely aggressive towards someone on my way home, I’m not sure becoming so aggressive and angry was justified
Help keep the sub engaging!
Don’t downvote assholes!
Do upvote interesting posts!
Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ
Subreddit Announcements
Follow the link above to learn more
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post.
Easy. YTA.
I mean yeah…YTA
he said….
you yelled “at the top of your lungs”
you really need to ask asshole?
>For context I’m normally a very laid back guy and don’t have anger issues
Your actions show that you have anger issue, and a serious one at that, AH.
Fuck that guy . NTA . What the hell is the guy doing a walkway in The 1st place . If it’s a multi use path , the dumb ass should have a horn, bell or call out ahead of reaching you .
YTA
“I don’t have anger issues” – proceeds describing his anger issues.
Yep, many urban cyclists suck and usually I’d be the last person to defend them. But in this case it’s clear that you were the one at fault. You blocked his path, you ignored his alarm bell and you cussed at him. I hope at least you weren’t walking on a cycle path…
it honestly just sounds like you’re burnt out
guy on bike didn’t seem to care you yelled after him, seems like YOU care that you yelled. remember to take good care of yourself, it’s important, and might help you snap less.
NTA. They were rude first, they got a proper reaction.
ESH
He was an asshole for riding without making sure pedestrians knew he was there. I’m not sure what the rules for bicyclists are in your area but it’s illegal to ride a bike or an e-bike on the sidewalk where I am.
Your end of it is yelling at him. Just shrug it off next time unless you’re actually run over or something.
As for the anger issue part…as someone who is dealing with my own in therapy it’s important to realize you might have one and that you just bottle it up until it explodes.
So he signaled, but you didn’t like the way he signaled. he shook his head, and you started screaming and cursing while he rode away silently.
Yes, this is pretty much definitional asshole behavior.
Also, you also say he made a ” ridiculous beeping noise” that you couldn’t hear – how did you know he made a noise if you couldn’t hear?
Seriously, mate; YTA for over-reacting, even if you were hot and tired.
You threw a tantrum in public over not very much, you absolutely do have anger issues
In my country it is illegal to ride a bike on the footpath unless you are 12 or under. Was he under 12? NTA
YTA. 100%.
Blocking the bike patch and then insulting the guy you just blocked in a blind rage.
YTA. Nothing of what he did deserved being yelled it. That’d be a somewhat adequate response to him making you fall or splashing you with mud, not that.
NTA in my opinion, he shouldn’t have been on the path in the first place and he should of had a proper bell too.
NTA You weren’t the one riding a vehicle on a footpath