So me and my best friend Angel have known each other since 2022. We originally met dated and I broke up with her for her lying to me about something that hurt me. We did not talk for several years and then we reconnected in mid 2024 after we talked for awhile I realized she was a changed person and not the same person who lied to me. we’ve sometimes had this flirty/sexual dynamic sometimes, we hooked up once in 2024. I told her before I thought I had feelings for her and she said she didn’t feel the same, so I pushed my feelings away and just focused on being the best friend I could for her. She got into a serious relationship and that ended after like 6-7ish months in 2025 and she admitted that she felt bad that she friendzoned me back in 2024. That she knew I was probably the best option for her. Ever since she broke up with her ex we’ve again had this sexual/flirty dynamic. Shes stated she is scared to even try things as a potential relationship because of past trauma of people leaving her. Her roommate has even made comments while we would be on the phone. I don’t wanna nuke our relationship but I don’t wanna run from how I feel because doing that always causes me extreme anxiety. Maybe I’m reading too much into things but I just wanted to get my thoughts down and hear what other people think.
TLDR: I have caught romantic feelings for my girl best friend and don’t know how to navigate it.
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You have two options with a few outcomes. A. Say nothing, potentially live a happy life with someone else and POTENTIALLY wonder what if forever. Or spend an unspecified amount of time in a onesided love with this woman until she finds someone else, and its just awkward being around you and you wish you said something.
Option B. Say something. Tell her you still have feelings for her, and if she returns the feelings? Don’t change your behaviors. Keep being the cool people that you are right now, just in a relationship. When you can’t keep your hands to yourselves anymore, go nuts. That way it isnt awkwardly forced. Or, she rejects you, annd you have inevitably ruined things. They might go back to being good in time, but you’ll never be the same. Been married 5 years, and when i first laid eyes on my wife-to-be i didnt say anything, she came in got food, and left. I thought i’d never see her again, or if i did she’d be with someone.
6 months later, she popped up to get a job where i worked. I didn’t waste a second on my second chance. Turns out, she wanted a job there to chase after ME.
This could be good or bad, but in my opinion you should always follow the heart. Life’s too short for anything else.
just approach him and tell him about your feelings, maybe he feels the same way about you
Do it or regret it. It’s just one of those things.
I wouldn’t go love bomb her with poetry of your undying affection.
You got 2 options:
-Try to lock eyes in a cute moment and if she catches your gaze, try for a kiss
-Tell her how you feel and do it with compliments. Try not to focus too much on you, but all the things you like about her.
You gotta do it to move forward.
Tell her straight up you want more than just flirty vibes and see if she’s willing to try—if not, you’ll know instead of stressing forever.
My motto has always been “regret the things you do, not the things you don’t do”….