AITA update to my last post

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https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/dJl8SgccrK — Hi, after many people said basically the same thing i ended up seeing him this morning and we talked about it.

He admitted to cheating on me with the “coworker” who he was out with, he said it was just a one time thing and he was feeling alone and just needed a distraction, i told him that it was officially over and for him to come pack his shit or else im leaving it outside, hes tried contacting me multiple times since but i really just dont want to talk to him—is it a good idea to ignore him? do i listen to him?

AITA??

Comments

  1. Leather-Cash-1014 Avatar

    NTA

    The second he cheated he showed you what his priorities was and broke a trust you cannot get back now.

    Also i read your last post and the fact he said it was because he was feeling alone after declining your offer to hangout is just a stupid excuse.

    That man is a prick !!!!

  2. InvestigatorOk7152 Avatar

    Don’t listen to him. Or you can listen to him, but don’t let his words actually get to you. He’s just guilty and upset that he got caught, that’s all.

  3. ThighBurgerDeluxe Avatar

    Nah, you’re NTA here. Dude messed up. Cheating ain’t never a one time thing, it’s a choice. Stick to your guns, girl.

  4. dstluke Avatar

    Just ignore him, sis. I would contact that coworker because chances are she had no idea you even existed. She needs to know what position he put her in.

  5. iknowsomethings2 Avatar

    Block him. He’s a cheater. WTF is he talking about he was feeling alone, he DECLINED hanging out with you and chose his coworkers over you.
    And then cheated on you with one of those coworkers.

    Tell him he can move in with his AP.
    Pack up his shit, leave it outside or call his parents to come and pick it up.

    Make sure you have it in writing so he can’t sue you.

  6. Ok_Conversation9750 Avatar

    Block him on everything. Ignore him. If you listen to him, you are telling him you are still willing to let him lie to you. Have some self respect and just walk away. He’s an AH, and not worth your time/energy.

  7. DeeZyWrecker Avatar

    Nah, you’re good. It’s over. Don’t try to go over it in your head with scenarios, this is the only way it should’ve gone.

    As people said in the first post, NTA. And I wouldn’t believe it’s a one time thing. If he felt alone, and his first action was to go cheat, instead of coming to you, that’s just it. He can go find someone else to heal his loneliness.

  8. ImaginaryReward2734 Avatar

    NTA for ignoring him, do not engage or let him love bomb you. Only “listen to him” if you want to be cheated on again, because that will be what you sign up for if you take him back. And in that case, you’ll only be an AH to yourself, and to us if you come back and post about it again next time.

  9. CliveBixby1974 Avatar

    Just ghost him and move on. He’s not worth it. He was lonely when you were actively trying to spend time with him. He thinks you’re a fucking idiot.

  10. Nice_Rain_10 Avatar

    NTA. Cheaters should be given a vasectomy with bricks.

  11. eightmarshmallows Avatar

    He said “alone”, but alone is not what he meant. He deliberately used a term to make you feel bad and feel guilty as if you were somehow responsible for his feelings.

  12. NYCStoryteller Avatar

    NTA. Pack his shit up, and tell him that you’ll put it outside at the time he’s agreed to pick it up. Don’t let him in.

  13. adnyp Avatar

    Find someone who isn’t a cheater.

  14. Exotic-Rooster4427 Avatar

    Nah don’t listen to him. Move on. Preferably with his best friend to be petty.