Hi everyone,
I’m a 24M, and I’ve been in love with my girlfriend (23F) for 8 years. For the longest time, it was one-sided, but about 5 months ago I proposed to her, and she said yes. That moment was honestly the happiest of my life.
I was working as a Data Engineer for a year, but I quit to pursue a Master’s in AI and Data Analytics in France. Before moving, I only got about 3 months with her in India. Leaving her was really hard, but I thought we could handle it together.
The problem is, her parents have now started looking for marriage proposals for her. She’s been fighting with them to convince them about me, but their main concern is that I’m “still studying” and not settled. Last month she rejected one proposal, but now there’s another one. Her parents don’t want to wait a year, while my course only ends in August 2026.
All of this is hitting me really hard. I’m already under pressure to do well in my studies and secure a job, but the thought of losing her is overwhelming. I feel depressed, can’t eat properly, and sometimes can’t focus on my studies. Even as I type this, I’m crying.
I’ve loved this girl for 8 years and can’t imagine anyone else in my life. Right now, I’m scared — scared of losing her, scared about my future, and scared I won’t be able to prove myself in time.
My question: How can I cope with this pressure, both emotionally and practically? What can I do to maintain my relationship and reassure her parents until I’m “settled”?
TL;DR: 24M engaged to my 23F girlfriend of 8 years. I moved to France for a Master’s (ending Aug 2026), but her parents are pressuring her to marry someone “settled” sooner. I’m struggling with stress, depression, and fear of losing her. Need advice on how to cope and protect our relationship.