Okay so for some background: my boyfriend (21M) and I (20F) have been together for almost five months now, but we’ve known each other for about a year since last October. So basically we were just friends for around seven months before we started dating.
We’re really close and spend as much time together as we can. We’re both college students and both work, so we usually hang out on weekends or when school’s not in session. During summer break, which was three months long, he spent most of his time with his parents. He’d usually spend 3-5 days out of each month with me and the rest with them.
At the time I had a car, so I was never really home anyway. Even if I wasn’t with him, I was usually out with friends or just doing my own thing.
When the semester started, I stayed at my apartment for about a month, and he’d come over on weekends since his job is only two minutes away from my place. That’s how we’d get our time together.
But then it changed to me spending time at his place because my job is closer to where he lives and I can literally walk to work from there. It’s just easier than paying for Ubers or asking my friends to drive me.
Honestly, the other reason I spend so much time at his place is because I started to hate being at my apartment. Not because he wasn’t there, but because my friends can be a bit much sometimes, like I just want to chill in my room and watch TV instead of drinking and playing card games every night. He’s a doesnt mind just being together but doing out own things.
So I kind of escaped to his place, and it’s been great. I’m pretty sure we’re past the honeymoon phase because I don’t feel like I have to be glued to him all the time, and he doesn’t really care how much time we spend together either.
We’re also planning to move into a two-bedroom townhome next October, and we’ve already talked about marriage and kids. Obviously we’re not rushing into anything right now, but we’re both dating with the intention to marry someday.
The thing is, I sometimes feel bad about how much time I spend at his place because of what other people say. My friends make comments like, “You’re never home, you’re always with him!” and his mom once said, “Don’t you think you’re moving too fast? I want you to enjoy life first before settling down.” And now it’s making me feel like I’m somehow doing this wrong, even though we’re happy and comfortable with how things are.
TL;DR: My boyfriend and I have been together for five months, spend a lot of time together, and are planning to move in next year and eventually marry. Friends and his mom think we are moving too fast.