Me and my bf have been dating for around 10 months now and for a few months he has been slowly making comments about how often i text my friends, along with this he will also tell me i don’t speak to him as much as them and i “purposely don’t go on my phone when he’s messaging” which is just not true. A lot of the times when i hang out with my friends (he is in the same friendgroup) he will get mad when i’m not seeing him on that day instead even if ive already seen him a lot this week. He is invited to hangout with us but if he chooses not to go he will get mad at me for going. This also happens with just my girl friends and he will accuse me of wanting to spend more time with them than him when i don’t.
He doesn’t see a problem with being mad at this because he thinks it means i’m putting him second even when im constantly showing im not.
tl;dr My boyfriend always starts an argument when i hang out with friends, what does this mean/what should i do?
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he’s insecure and projecting those insecurities onto your relationship. he’s emotionally immature and controlling. get out quick.
If he thinks there’s a guy or guys . He think you’re cheating. Sit him down & talk.
This is very controlling behavior and these types of things get worse over time. I wish I could go back in time and tell my 18yr old self the same thing when she was dating her boyfriend at the time. If a serious conversation doesn’t bring a solution, I’d reconsider the relationship. Don’t neglect your friendships or relationships outside of this relationship. Isolation is often how abuse starts. I’m not jumping on the bandwagon of “abuse abuse!”, but I am telling you to become aware and pay attention to any types of manipulation tactics.
It means either he doesn’t trust you or he is insecure and thinks that one of the people you are hanging out with is getting to close to you. Which as a guy myself I’m not insecure but of course all guys are going to be somewhat worried when their girlfriend his hanging around a bunch of guys, because we know that if you gave any of those guys the chance to hit, 100% they would take it every single one of them, there is no respect between guys that aren’t friends.
As you get older you will learn naturally what instant dump behavior is. This is some of it.