I (M22) feel insecure because my girlfriend (F21) has way more experience than me together 7 months

r/

Shes been in multiple relationships and had serious ones before me
Im her first guy with less experience and sometimes I feel like she compares me to her past
She says she loves me but sometimes she makes jokes about things she used to do with her ex and it hurts
I feel like I will never match up to the guys before me
I try to act confident but deep inside I feel small and insecure
How do I stop letting her past affect me now

TL;DR
Girlfriend (F21) has more experience than me (M22) and I feel insecure together 7 months

Comments

  1. chai_creamcats Avatar

    What’s wrong with her why does she think it’s okay to make jokes about things she used to do with her ex? That’s so rude

  2. heyy_girl Avatar

    “Things she used to do with her ex” like sexually?? I had serious relationships before my boyfriend now (who had zero relationships) and I would never bring up my ex and definitely not compare them because 1, that’s a shitty thing to do, & 2, it’s unhelpful and unnecessary.

    You’re right to feel insecure and it sounds like her past is affecting you because she keeps bringing it up. I wouldn’t expect my boyfriend to try to figure out how HE can stop my letting comments affect him when he is the one being compared.