So I need some advice on this situation. My bf initiated a break and moved out with his parents about 8 weeks ago. He said he was feeling lost and needed to figure out if he wanted to be in this relationship or not. He just kind of left suddenly without talking to me much about it and it seemed so easy for him. I have been heartbroken about it while he has been suddenly posting a lot on social media, going on trips with friends and trying all kinds of new things. I feel like a fool for caring about him. From his actions, I don’t think he cares about me. I haven’t really stood up for myself and I feel like I have just let him walk all over me. I have seen him about 4 or 5 times since he left and we slept together. I feel bad for doing that, but I just gave in to him and I wish I hadn’t. I’m starting to feel like he gets off on the power that he has over me right now. We have been together for 8 years and he always told me how much he loved me and I thought we had a strong relationship. We have had rough times, but we always chose each other. I just don’t know what to do.
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My boyfriend of 8 years asked for a break 8 weeks ago, moved in with his parents, and said he needed to figure out if he still wanted to be in the relationship. Since then, he’s been living it up while I’ve been heartbroken. We’ve seen each other a few times and slept together, which I regret. I’m starting to realize he is not treating me how I deserve and that I’ve been letting him walk all over me. I think I’m finally ready to be done, but it still hurts.
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I would write this out, message him, and block. He’s absolutely using you if he’s sleeping with you, and the lack of communication on his side is a total lack of respect… not even worth salvaging IMO. I’m very sorry this is happening, though. 🙁
So you two broke up 8 weeks ago, and he moved in with his parents. I am guessing you are saying that you two used to live together? And you’ve been together for 8 years?
Well, you are only 26. Don’t sleep with him when you are on a break. Imagine if he is sleeping with another girl, then later comes to you on the same day and sleeps with you. He’s gross. You deserve better. Nothing to be ashamed of though, that you had sex with him while on a break. It happened, you can’t change it. And now you learned that you don’t like it. So don’t do it anymore. But you know what, you deserve better. You deserve the best.
You are just going through the life challenge of wanting someone who doesn’t treat you well. It is a lesson to learn to treat yourself well, and no longer tolerate mistreatment. Sometimes, the wrong people teach us the right lessons in life. And then later you will meet the right person for you.
Internet hugs.
I’m so sorry you’re hurting from this, you sound like such a lover girl🥺❤️I think deep down you know what this means for your relationship with this guy and what needs to be done. If this was the man for you there would be no break or “needing to rethink the relationship”. 8 years is a hard pill to swallow, but time doesn’t equate to having to deal with disrespect (which stringing you along is). Don’t beat yourself up for sleeping with him just realize that’s what he came back for. Ask yourself what you would do if this situation happened to a close friend or your daughter (hypothetical) and you’ll have your answer! Kisses and hugs, you deserve to be loved to the fullest and someone is waiting for you❤️