When we argue she calls me names and says harsh things
Later she says she didnt mean it but words stick
I never call her names I try to stay calm but she pushes me until I break
It makes me feel disrespected and small
I told her that I need respect even in fights but she says everyone argues like that
I dont think its normal to insult each other every time
I love her but I dont want to feel like an enemy in my own relationship
TL;DR
Girlfriend (F23) insults me during fights and I (M24) feel disrespected together 2 years
Comments
She is verbally abusive during conflict. This would be a dealbreaker for many people. You can think about it deeply.
You can see if she is willing to do couples therapy together or individual therapy to learn conflict resolution skills. But behaviour like verbal abuse is hard for someone to change. And no one deserves to put up with a mean person. Think deeply.