Ugh why am I attracted to someone in a relationship? For a little bit of context, I (26F) started being extremely attracted to someone (28M) that is in a relationship. He is best friends with a very good friend of mine, so we meet pretty often socialising with many people. It didn’t happen from the start, as I have known him and his girlfriend for a year at least (they were at the beginning of the relationship then), but lately, talking more and getting to know him more I feel attracted to him from all fronts.
I have no idea how is his relationship with his girlfriend, and honestly I don’t care. I feel bad enough because I have all shorts of thoughts, and try to distance myself from him whenever we see each other. But even so, I feel like my eyes are always searching for him and I hate it.
Life is hard.
TL;DR; : Just ranting about me being attracted to a guy that is already in a relationship.
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It’s a thing. Look up “preselection bias” and “mate choice copying”.
It’s hardwired, so don’t get down on yourself. Just don’t act on it.