Hey, longtime reader, first-time poster. About two months ago, I put my PlayStation account on a friend’s console. We’ve been close since high school and kept playing online together through college with our younger siblings. But before this school year, I flunked out and got kicked out of college, so I play way more often than she does now. I’m also unemployed at the moment.My little brother, a junior in high school who does marching band, plays with me at least twice a week. When I asked him to play Path of Titans with me, he said, “Why don’t you buy it for me?” Then I remembered PlayStation’s game-sharing feature. Since we play so often, it felt like a good investment. But Whenever I try to hang out with my friend she acts like it’s a chore. For example, she was playing Hollow Knight (one of my games) for four hours while my brother and I wanted to play something as a group. When we asked her to join, she said, “I hung out with you on the weekend, why do you all want to play now?” I get that constant gaming isn’t for everyone, but 3 hours later, she was ready to play. We got through two matches of Marvel Rivals before she had to sleep for school. Over the past two months, we’ve been playing less and less, but she’s still enjoying my 100+ game library (again,can’t stress enough how unemployed I am). So, half-jokingly, I brought up the idea of a $5 monthly fee. Since we barely play together and I’m broke, it seemed fair. She gave me a hard no. Two days ago, I bought Ghost of Yotei. My friend immediately asked if she could download it. I proposed a deal: in exchange for the game, we hang out online twice a week and try to meet up in person once every two months (we live 20 minutes apart). She said she was really busy, which I get, but still said no. The next day, I got a notification that Ghost of Yotei had been installed even though I’d already done that. My brother didnt installed it, so I checked, and noticed my friend had set her games to private (so I couldn’t see what she was playing or earning trophies in). I found it suspicious but let it go. Later she sent me a TikTok about Ghost of Yotei. I asked if she installed it, she said yes. I reminded her about our deal, and she said, “What deal?” Then said“I don’t like having to “pay” for it, not that I don’t want to spend time with you guys, but the way you keep bringing it up, I don’t feel comfortable taking things from you.” So, I told her to remove my account and games from her PlayStation. No fight, she just said okay. Now I feel like a complete asshole for doing that. It was just the fact that she went behind my back and hid the games from me that made me pull the trigger. So i come to yall today to ask AITA
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Hey, longtime reader, first-time poster. About two months ago, I put my PlayStation account on a friend’s console. We’ve been close since high school and kept playing online together through college with our younger siblings. But before this school year, I flunked out and got kicked out of college, so I play way more often than she does now. I’m also unemployed at the moment.My little brother, a junior in high school who does marching band, plays with me at least twice a week. When I asked him to play Path of Titans with me, he said, “Why don’t you buy it for me?” Then I remembered PlayStation’s game-sharing feature. Since we play so often, it felt like a good investment. But Whenever I try to hang out with my friend she acts like it’s a chore. For example, she was playing Hollow Knight (one of my games) for four hours while my brother and I wanted to play something as a group. When we asked her to join, she said, “I hung out with you on the weekend, why do you all want to play now?” I get that constant gaming isn’t for everyone, but 3 hours later, she was ready to play. We got through two matches of Marvel Rivals before she had to sleep for school. Over the past two months, we’ve been playing less and less, but she’s still enjoying my 100+ game library (again,can’t stress enough how unemployed I am). So, half-jokingly, I brought up the idea of a $5 monthly fee. Since we barely play together and I’m broke, it seemed fair. She gave me a hard no. Two days ago, I bought Ghost of Yotei. My friend immediately asked if she could download it. I proposed a deal: in exchange for the game, we hang out online twice a week and try to meet up in person once every two months (we live 20 minutes apart). She said she was really busy, which I get, but still said no. The next day, I got a notification that Ghost of Yotei had been installed even though I’d already done that. My brother didnt installed it, so I checked, and noticed my friend had set her games to private (so I couldn’t see what she was playing or earning trophies in). I found it suspicious but let it go. Later she sent me a TikTok about Ghost of Yotei. I asked if she installed it, she said yes. I reminded her about our deal, and she said, “What deal?” Then said“I don’t like having to “pay” for it, not that I don’t want to spend time with you guys, but the way you keep bringing it up, I don’t feel comfortable taking things from you.” So, I told her to remove my account and games from her PlayStation. No fight, she just said okay. Now I feel like a complete asshole for doing that. It was just the fact that she went behind my back and hid the games from me that made me pull the trigger. So i come to yall today to ask AITA
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so you got what you wanted and your mad about it? Frankly, I betcha there was a way you could’ve deregistered her console from your account and not make her do it so truly this was a power play and she called your bluff.
YTA
you’re so naive if you think she removed your account from her console. change your password and remove yourself from other consoles it’s been logged in to
NTA. she’s not your friend
NTA. She was NOT your friend. She was using you for your PS library
NTA for taking back what’s rightfully yours, but you need to reassess your priorities.
You flunked out of school, so you decide to spend more time paying video games? You’re also aware of your employment status, but have no issue spending money on a brand new game? This is not a promising trajectory.
Get a job. Stop stalling and playing video games.
Yes YTA. Ignore the other children in this thread. Your friend is in school, and working, and you were kind enough to give her the ability to spend a couple hours alone playing games. Now suddenly there’s stipulations to your gift. Now it’s no longer a gift, it’s an obligation to play what you want when you want. You just burned your relationship with this person over NOTHING.
NTA, they probably didn’t remove your account btw
YTA – you were a great friend allowing a person to play some games of yours… You dont get to control them.
Suddenly you added expectations onto the gift. It was essentially blackmail
You blackmailed your friend and destroyed your friendship because they wouldnt play enough Marvel Rivals with you.
Really think about that fact
Again, YTA.
Nta based soley on the fact that she doesnt spend time actually playing games with you, I mean surely playing with you and maintaining the friendship shouldnt be a big ask if she is literally getting access to 100s of games for free. . .
The situation sucks tho, talk to her and explain that you feel used since she doesnt play with you, and doesnt make time for the friendship
I’m going to let you in on one of the greatest secrets that you can ever learn to understand other people’s motivations:
IF YOU CARE, YOU MAKE TIME
People can claim whatever they want, but if something truly matters to them, they will go out of their way to do it. If obstacles pop up, they find a way around them or a time when they don’t exist.
Your friend goes out of her way to look at games, dl yours, but can’t be bothered to hang out with you. This means the games you bring to her are more important than hanging out.
Seriously though change your PSN password and unlink from her PlayStation. I can almost guarantee you that she is not going to delete free games, especially ones that she has saved files for.
NTA. If she wants to game, then she needs to start buying her own games.
Also try and find a job too though.
NTA, but chances are she didn’t take your account off. Take yourself off and change your password.
YTA. You’re broke, spending money on videogames, a dropout with no motivation. You are clearly in need of help and using games as a coping mechanism and by extension to maintain friendships. You need to find some people you trust and all for help. If you need your account to yourself to pay with your sibling then don’t make it a condition of your friendship. And take a shower once in a while!
Yta its your account however, asking git money an saying your broke than buying a brand new game is…a rather poor life choice
NTA
This person is not your friend anymore. They may have been in the past, but now they are just using you for the games.
The former friend is the A H here.