Hello, I (24F) recently moved into a new house with a mother (37F) and her child (5NB) and it has been an experience to say the least.
There have just been a lot of things happening recently and I need outsider perspective so I will list just a few of the things that have happened:
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I have a cat, she knew I had a cat and was happy bringing my cat into the house. She got annoyed finding my cats hair on the floor so I had to buy a vacuum for the house and I now vac every day before work.
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She leaves the kitchen a mess most of the time and I will clean it when I get home from work but I left A SINGLE PLATE of mine out for maybe a day and a half and she said that I leave a mess in the kitchen, we have different coloured plates so I know what’s mine and what isn’t.
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I work afternoons and don’t get home usually till about 11 or later and whenever I get home I try my hardest to be super quiet. I don’t get the same in a morning, she will yell at the child and they will both stomp around the house and it does wake me up, I don’t get more than 6 hours sleep night where as before I was getting between 8-10.
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She is really weird about me paying her back for things but is yet to pay me back for anything she’s asked me for. I have taken the child out (by myself because she is stressed) and paid for breakfast and I have also picked up groceries and stupid stuff for the house like tea towels and cutlery and haven’t asked for anything in return but she is more than happy to ask for money whenever she pays for anything I might need.
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She has a child and expects me to go 50/50 on all household bills. I don’t know if this is a normal thing but I thought maybe a 60/40 split would what be happening because of the extra the child uses but that’s just me and I don’t know if that’s normal that we go 50/50 because 2 adults just split down the middle.
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She has caused me anxiety because when she’s moody and yells in the morning she talks about how she does everything around the house like I do nothing. I have multiple reminders set in my phone for household chores that I do before work, to take the bins out and many other things but it just seems like I’m the punching bag.
I have never been in a room mate type situation before and really need help on what to do because it’s affecting my general happiness and I don’t know how much more I can take, the lease is signed until July as well so that’s also another thing
tldr: my housemate is loud in a morning and is treating me like a surrogate auntie to there child while ever cleaning up after them and expecting me to do most of the housework, I should probably move out