So a few months ago my gf and her best friend wanted to have a threesome with me and shit who the hell was I to turn down every dude’s fantasy doing 2 chicks at the same time? Except the problem was that my gf’s best friend was a good friend’s ex. So I talked to my friend about it and he said that he was cool with it and that it’s not really his business since they’ve been broken up for quite a while now.
Now fast forward to a few days ago and apparently he told our friend group about what happened and pretty much everyone agreed (including the same friend who apparently changed his mind) that what I did was a dick move.
My gf and her best friend did warn me to keep it hush hush and now they’re laughing at me for not listening to them.
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You sound young enough to enjoy the threesome and not worry about the consequences later in life, so enjoy it while it’s fresh but remember in the future that some memories are best kept unsaid.
There is a lot of wisdom coming from the two chicks in your threesome (which is something I never thought I would type). You have no one to blame but yourself for not maintaining more discretion. NAH.
Hey listen you enjoyed and now people who are shit talking are just jealous of you. They have got nothing better to do other than talk. You should’ve kept your mouth shut but I get it. It is kinda an achievement
Yes you are the jerk 😂😂 even though he said you COULD doesn’t mean he is GOOD with it, even considering having sex with a mates ex is a d*** move. If you did want to do it definitely should have listened to your gf 🙂↔️
Bruh, the real MVPs here are the gals for warning ya lol 🥲
NTA but you’re kinda naive… people love drama!
Meh, NTAH for having the threesome. If your friend felt a certain type of way about it, he should have had the guts to say so when you asked him. Now he wants to play the victim? Nah bro.
But in the future, you should realize that just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Thinking with the little head can be fun, but it often leads to bad decisions sooner or later.
NTA
Depends how in love he/ they were and how it ended. If it was just dating and he broke up with her, then this should be no problem. If she was the love of his life and she broke his heart, then you are an AH. I’m betting on the second scenario.
NAH, who cares what the jealous think.
YTA a little bit for ignoring their request to keep it quiet & for rubbing it in your friend’s face.
It’s widely known not to fuck the ex-partners of your friends unless you’re willing to risk the friendship. If you have to ask if they’d be okay with it, you ought to know they’ll probably still feel weird even if they aren’t comfortable saying they don’t want you to.
NTA but you are stupid for being told by the girls to not say anything and then you immediately say something.
Yes
NTA. You did follow bro code first and made sure that he was cool with it. He on the other hand is acting like a woman. He never should have agreed to something if he didn’t really mean it.
On one hand this story could be different in a month or two and then it would be “I didn’t want to hurt my friends feelings when I had a 3some with his my gf and his ex” trying to ask ya guy if it was ok was the correct move but also their reactions are a bit justified.
NTAH and hopefully yall can move past this.
Depends how good a friend this guy was.
YTA to yourself for telling your buddy, and kind of an AH for banging his ex, you think that wasn’t calculated?
Pretty dumb.
Next time just keep your mouth shut.
I don’t think you’re an AH. I do think you’re pretty foolish for doing that though.
I mean, NTA but I agree with your gf and her bf lmao. This was like, very predictable.
Whenever dating or sleeping with a friend’s ex or ex crush or whatever, lots of people say “yeah I’m fine with it” but you gotta mentally prepare yourself for the about 50% of that bunch that aren’t, in fact, fine with it.
You should have kept quiet. You probably have ruin another opportunity to do that again.
Ok, let’s imagine this scenario differently:
Imagine that group of friends is like “3-some with his ex? That’s cool.”
What is that going to mean when one of their exes gets in on a threesome with you, or someone else? It would bother them. That is why they didn’t sit back and say it was cool. They wouldn’t be cool with it if it were their ex, that’s all.
Idk if this makes u TAH or not. What is ur friend gonna do? Deny you a threesome out of his bruised ego? It all depends on the sincerity of those conversations. I tell ya what tho, you would be the Platinum Standard of a friend had you said NO, SHE IS MY FRIEND’S EX.
you did violate the bro code, so there‘s that
YTA for blabbin’.
NAH. You asked permission, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t consequences. Congrats on the sex.
Never discuss your sexual activities with anyone other than the involved person/party. That way if something leaks out you know where it came from. There wasn’t any reason to discuss with someone ex so you’ve learned a lesson.
You asked PERMISSION from an unrelated man? How grossly misogynistic of you..
NTA.
Those friends who are turning on you? They’re just jealous.
YTA but you still won.
YTI for blabbering. Also…nice.
NTA.
I don’t think an ex should ever be off limits to anyone but family.
Woulda kept that one to yourself, bud.
You had a 3some? We want DETAILS!!!
NTA cause dude told you to go for it.
Hopefully you learned your lesson, don’t hookup with friends’ exes.
Reverse the situation and reflect on how you would feel. Not saying YTA but its probably not conducive to relationship building.
All these people sound toxic af
That’s a dick move… bro code never screw your friend’s ex. Unless you don’t care about your friend. Put yourself in his shoes and you have your answer.
Should have kept it hush hush and kept the train to pound town operating on time bruh.
You idiot LOL
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Pretty sure your friend got laughed at first, for saying he doesn’t care about the threesome. So he changed his stance. If anyone brings it up just say, “hey I had threesome and you didn’t. If it bothers you, go find someone to do it with. If it doesn’t, STFU. Don’t bring your insecurities to me”.
Ask your friends to eff off. You did right asking first and that’s that. If people have a problem, ask them to hold on to their gfs for dear life. Tell them, if you break up with her, I get to have another threesome. Eff that shit.
Ha. Dick move.
lol upu asked first bur you’re a dumbass for bragging
You are the ahole for telling everyone. Are you 12 ?
Sounds like you cant keep your mouth shut that will never happen again !! If you kept your mouth shut it could gappen all the time.You fucked up
Gentleman never talk or tell
Note to yourself: there are literally billions of people in the world to pick from. None of them need to be your Friends Ex-GF/Wife.
Better to ask forgiveness rather than permission I this situation.
Bro, heard of bro code? You ignored the bros before hoes etiquette.
This is fake
Why do we care?
You got the go ahead. What he thinks after is his own fault and all these friend’s opinions beyond that are useless. I just hope you did good and get to do it again a few times.
Good luck
It’s generally a big no-no to fuck around with a friend’s ex even if they gave permission, but now that you’ve done it, you have to face the consequences of your actions.
If the opportunity ever happens again, maybe don’t do that?
You tried a little too hard to be fair and it blew up on you. They’re broken up so there was no need but as you probably know, blabbing about a threesome is a worse move than sleeping with someone’s ex. Hard lesson learned I hope.
Not a real friend if you asked they said cool then changed their mind.
What kind of friend wants to have sex with their good friend’s ex lmao
You should have kept your mouth shut lol.
And then you go and tell everyone on Reddit. You ain’t the AH for the threesome, but that’s some weak shit by flexing
Now you can let your buddy know how his dick tastes..
Sounds like Orange office
That’s what you get for bragging. Should’ve kept it a secret like the girls suggested.
Pro tip: I’ve lived this sort of strife so by experience I recommend always keeping intimacy and your friend group separate be it with your gf, an ex theirs, a four way or whatever. Drama always arises. Furthermore, since you did, you weren’t wrong to tell your friend but you have to have the emotional IQ to separate words from brain reality. His “i dont care” also had a reason “we arent together anymore” almost as if he’s convincing himself. He cared, or at least was jealous. The world is so far from black and white between words and meaning/hidden meaning ANYTIME women are involved or your communicating with women. We are just wired different and men are unpredictable with that topic, even “bro’s”. I hope you aren’t, but if you’re betrayed by a pseudo friend this will sink in.
ew grow tf up
You messed up any future 3somes cause now women know you’re a Chatty Chad
NTA, you observed bro code. Your friend ITAH for airing it out, probably in an attempt to sloot shame his ex.
100% a dick move on your part. Forget her being a friends ex, what kind of idiot goes around telling everyone that the two wanted a threesome with him. I bet they sure regret it was him they choose. You really needed to go around asking ex boyfriends for permission? Everyone needed to know and be ok with it? learn to be discrete, They 100% did not want you going around blabbering about it.
YTA
You climbed the mountain so many have not. Be proud son. It was worth any slack you get.
So this is all just a brag post about having two naked girls in your bed. Come back when you have something more impressive to share.
Yeah man you’re a complete dickhead.
You fucked your friends ex and bragged about it
Definitely broke the bro code. But worth it i hope!
YTA and if I were your friend I’d put hands on you
Bro code first, shutting TF up 2nd
Doesn’t matter. You had a three way, and not the bad kind.
First off! Keep your mouth shut! Second, never have a threesome with friends. It never ends well.
Your NTA . But now after receiving the pleasure of the threesome now you receive the pain ! Your girlfriend and her best friend were right . Take their laughter with good grace .
This bro code or gal code is so stupid. Date/hook up with whomever you want to.
NTA for having the threeway
but YTA for telling people after being told not to lol
NTA BUT should have kept that on the down low.
Let them be mad, you still got those memories
YTA, you fucked around, now it’s time you found out haha
I will never understand why people care about who their ex sleeps with.
We have a saying in my country “quem come calado, come dobrado”. Something like “he who eats/fucks quietly, eats/fucks twice as much”.
You didn’t do it quietly, so you probably won’t do it again.
Note: Come or comer can mean to eat or to fuck depending on context.
YTA for asking him in the first place. It’s your friend’s ex-gf of course he’s going to have some personal issues with that. Man, imagine him asking if he could have sex with your girlfriend if you weren’t together. Might be hard to imagine, but it’s definitely something to keep under wraps if you can’t resist. Your friend is an idiot for pretending to himself that it wouldn’t bother him.
Maybe NTA but definitely dumb as hell😆
NTA, but not the brightest bulb in the house, are we?
At least they think it’s funny. Tell them if you ask do it again you’ll do it right this time.
2 chick’s at the same time man
Yeah you’re not very smart.
YTA. Partially for what (or rather who!) you did, but mostly for opening your damn trap about it.
Can’t teach common sense. That you asked doesn’t mean it didn’t feel like a betrayal and what is he going to say anyway?
You chose your priorities and made your bed. Nobody can trust a friend like this. Hope it was worth it 🤷♂️
Nope. YTA for saying something when two naked women are telling you not to. Dummy.
Well your dick did move…
You only live once!! F that guy😂
You chose a threesome over a friend.
are you braindead? shut ur mouth next time
Eskimo brother is salty.
A lot here saying YTA. So may as well do it again!
Yes, you are an AH. You did this to a good friend? What do you do to your enemies? Fuck their mom?
I remember having ‘friends’ like you when I was 20. Dropped them faster than a steaming pile of shit.
Maybe I’m jaded, but the girls aren’t stupid. They’re definitely smarter than you, but that’s a pretty low bar to begin with. Sounds like a revenge fuck more than anything.
> every dude’s fantasy doing 2 chicks at the same time
But dudes only have 1 dick.
Bro u messed up big time. Its a complex to have to tell someone else about ur sex adventures, as if u need to feel a certain anount of validation from other people to feel good about it. Next time keep ur bedroom or anyroom adventures for that matter to urself.
Humblebrag elsewhere, yungun
Yeah YTA.