Alright, this will be long and have some heavy stuff mentioned for better understanding.
My husband’s breath smells absolutely horrible, he obviously has hidden tonsil stones we can’t see or maybe some sort’ve infection. I’m not a doctor. He needs to see someone.
I’m 9 weeks postpartum. This is our second baby, but our first died during labor and I also almost died. It was extremely traumatic for both of us. My second pregnancy was very rough.
My first was an emergency c section after a long and traumatic labor, this one was a planned c section to avoid labor since it isn’t safe for me. I’m not willing to go into any of that much more.
I’m just mentioning it because it matters in the sense that I’m at a fragile point being postpartum after so much trauma. Not to say that my husband isn’t traumatized as well.
I have postpartum depression and postpartum rage/aggression. I’m on medication. My husband’s horrible breath has been an ongoing problem for going on 2 years now.
It was a problem before we lost our first son. He hasn’t made any efforts to see a doctor whatsoever. He also hasn’t made any efforts to research and try different things to help remedy the problem.
I acknowledge that my husband also is depressed, and that this is a contributing factor to his breath problem. But it did start before our traumatic loss.
His breath smells so horrible that I can’t breathe when it wafts around, and it nearly makes me gag. It’s SO BAD. Some days are worse than others.
Now here’s the conflict:
I can’t be nice about it anymore. I just can’t. I literally cannot. I’m way too overstimulated, overtired, overwhelmed, to be nice. I am not always mean about it.
Sometimes I’ll say, “baby your breath is really bad today” in a sweet voice. But most of the time, I can’t muster up that kindness anymore. I snap, saying things in a bitchy tone like ‘ugh I can’t fucking stand your breath anymore’. We’ve talked many times about him seeing a doctor or researching remedies etc. He takes 0 initiative.
He is upset that I am upset. He wants me to be nice about it. He says he wants me to have a better tone and attitude about it. But I can’t. I’m doing my very best. Truly, I’m doing my best. I just can’t stand it anymore. It’s so repulsive, disgusting. And I can’t do everything for him??? Am I supposed to schedule an appointment for him?? Why can’t he just do that???
So, am I the asshole for snapping at my husband and being harsh about his horrible breath in this context? He thinks I am.
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My husband does work but it’s from home. I know for sure that other people can smell his breath, but nobody ever says anything. I’m certain nobody wants to hurt his feelings.
He went to the dentist for a cleaning 2 months ago and was diagnosed with gingivitis, everything else was good. He does brush his teeth regularly and use mouthwash, but he could floss more.
Overall though, he really just needs to see a doctor. I think what I’ll do is just sit down with him and we’ll make an appointment together. I’m just gonna push him to do it, and we’ll get it done. Should I have to be the one to take initiative? No. But I’ll do it.
Also, to those advising I have a heart to heart to let him know the extent of it etc. I have. Multiple times. I even did today, which is what inspired me to post here. But I am just going to make him schedule an appointment and we’ll go from there. I’m really hoping it’s not going to be a difficult fix. And I’m really hoping there isn’t something serious going on.
It sucks that his breath is cursed af but he’s the love of my life, and I’d rather be dealing with this fuckass problem than cheating or worse. If I have to choose a fuckass problem to have, I guess. Ugh. Lol.
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Alright, this will be long and have some heavy stuff mentioned for better understanding.
My husband’s breath smells absolutely horrible, he obviously has hidden tonsil stones we can’t see or maybe some sort’ve infection. I’m not a doctor. He needs to see someone.
I’m 9 weeks postpartum. This is our second baby, but our first died during labor and I also almost died. It was extremely traumatic for both of us. My second pregnancy was very rough.
My first was an emergency c section after a long and traumatic labor, this one was a planned c section to avoid labor since it isn’t safe for me. I’m not willing to go into any of that much more.
I’m just mentioning it because it matters in the sense that I’m at a fragile point being postpartum after so much trauma. Not to say that my husband isn’t traumatized as well.
I have postpartum depression and postpartum rage/aggression. I’m on medication. My husband’s horrible breath has been an ongoing problem for going on 2 years now.
It was a problem before we lost our first son. He hasn’t made any efforts to see a doctor whatsoever. He also hasn’t made any efforts to research and try different things to help remedy the problem.
I acknowledge that my husband also is depressed, and that this is a contributing factor to his breath problem. But it did start before our traumatic loss.
His breath smells so horrible that I can’t breathe when it wafts around, and it nearly makes me gag. It’s SO BAD. Some days are worse than others.
Now here’s the conflict:
I can’t be nice about it anymore. I just can’t. I literally cannot. I’m way too overstimulated, overtired, overwhelmed, to be nice. I am not always mean about it.
Sometimes I’ll say, “baby your breath is really bad today” in a sweet voice. But most of the time, I can’t muster up that kindness anymore. I snap, saying things in a bitchy tone like ‘ugh I can’t fucking stand your breath anymore’. We’ve talked many times about him seeing a doctor or researching remedies etc. He takes 0 initiative.
He is upset that I am upset. He wants me to be nice about it. He says he wants me to have a better tone and attitude about it. But I can’t. I’m doing my very best. Truly, I’m doing my best. I just can’t stand it anymore. It’s so repulsive, disgusting. And I can’t do everything for him??? Am I supposed to schedule an appointment for him?? Why can’t he just do that???
So, am I the asshole for snapping at my husband and being harsh about his horrible breath in this context? He thinks I am.
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NTA, because there’s a psychological condition making you so snappish, and you’re trying to address that and fight against it and simply aren’t perfect.
Tell him he makes a doctor’s appointment or you simply won’t be in the same room as him.
NTA because you’re going through more than he is and TWO YEARS????
Recently the dentist told me if I ever notice my breath getting bad (I have very large tonsils) to gargle listerine. It helps to break up stones
Nta. You’ve been nice for 2 years and it hasn’t changed.
NTA. He’s not going to go to the doctor unless he experiences some kind of consequences, though. Not sure what they could be, but clearly the status quo isn’t working.
You can want me to be nice about it but that duration of civility has passed.
Go to the Dr or grow thicker skin. I’m 730 days deep in your smell you have done nothing serious to rectify.
He may have tonsils stones or he may have a serious condition. Many serious chronic illnesses cause extremely bad breath, such as you’re describing
NTA unless he’s trying to fix it. He may need his tonsils out but he should be doing everything possible to fix it
NTA and I went through a very similar issue with a former partner (and also lost my cool after months of making ‘nice’ comments with no change). Unfortunately this is not just a personal health issue, it affects everyone around him.
With this going on for two years, I’d guess it’s very likely a dental issue. How is his oral hygiene? If he refuses to be seen by a clinician, you can advise him at the very least to get aggressive with his oral hygiene routine at home – i.e. brushing twice a day, flossing before bed, using an antiseptic oral rinse, etc. Gum disease is insidious and many people have it without realizing it, until their breath starts to change.
ETA: In the case of my former partner, I had a moment where I finally snapped and told him it was selfish of him to neglect his oral health knowing I was the one that had to kiss him every day. It may have been cruel, but I was at my wits end and my attraction to him was dwindling. But it did knock some sense into him – he ended up scheduling an appointment with a dentist and learning that he had gingivitis. He had a couple of deep cleanings done, bought a fancy electric toothbrush and a water flosser (highly recommend!) and became absolutely ANAL about his oral hygiene before bed. After a couple of months, his breath never smelled better.
NTA. You’re recovering from abdominal surgery and he won’t schedule his own doctors appointment. Even using mouthwash in the meantime might help but he needs to get to the underlying cause. He’s not taking care of himself. I know that he is going through issues too as the last few years must have been extremely difficult for both of you but it’s hard to address when he probably needs counselling that he won’t access either. You can’t be his carer when you’re healing and looking after a newborn.
Yuck. I’d ramp up the pressure and actually be an asshole because he’s disgusting for ignoring it. NTA
NTA. Seeing a Dr is the best first step. He could have gum disease.
But if he’s shy he could at least get a probiotic spray and see if that starts helping. Shit.
Does he go to the dentist for regular cleanings? If it’s been a long time, it could be peridontal disease. That gross ass breath can clear a room and I sleep in a separate bedroom now. Partly because of that, mostly because we like different mattresses.
Start at the dentist with him and see if cleaning and possibly root planing helps.
Then go to the dr next if that did not help.
Also, make sure he actually flosses between his teeth really well daily. That can be the culprit of super foul breath. Ask the dental hygienist to teach him how to do it.
NTA. If he wanted to, he would. He’s capable of changing the situation but chooses not to.
NTA he needs to see the dentist and he doesn’t care that he stinks
NTA he is overdue for getting it checked out and neither of you should live that way.
This sucks. It really does. I get it. You are totally NTA, nice tone or not. Geez, how infuriating and gross. Here’s the thing: I know from experience (husband, disabled brother) that sometimes people can’t get themselves together to make the appointment. If it were me, I’d: sit down with him and make an appointment FOR him, but stipulate that if he doesn’t go, you are going to take the baby and LEAVE for (parents’ house? Best friend’s house?) and not come back until the doctor has seen him and prescribed something.
So sorry about the loss of your first child.
I’m hope things go well for your family as you journey together with your second little one.
2 years of being nice about it has gotten you guys nowhere. You’ve gotta do something to get the point across that his breath is a major problem and is causing you distress. Honestly you might wanna have a convo abt it during the daytime so you could make him schedule a doctor’s appointment with you there to see it. He’s proven to you that he won’t do it himself and sometimes depressed ppl need a push like that to get things done. He may also be experiencing doctor/dental anxiety about his bad breath (not an excuse to let this go on for 2yrs) so maybe ask him about that. Hope you guys can get it figured out!
NTA. And anyone calling the asshole in this is deeply misguided. You are 9 weeks postpartum after a life threatening delivery, dealing with trauma PPD and PPA. Your husband is being actively neglectful by refusing to seek treatment for a medical issue that is fundamentally destroying your ability to be physically close to him
Really, the answer is “take out a life insurance policy on him, stat” because oral health is a harbinger of heart health. (Quite literally, thanks to bacteria.)
NTA
This is a problem he cannot ignore any farther. You are trying to get help for your challenges – and using the help that you access. He’s not even doing that.
(ETA: I also would want to avoid any further pathogen contamination. The flora of your mouth impacts heart heath, but also different bacteria can predispose you to cavities, gum disease, and more. You don’t want that to set up shop in your mouth, or your kids mouths if they ever share food.)
I just wanted to say how very sorry I am for your loss, and for all that you’re dealing with now. I can’t imagine hard it is for you, for both of you. I hope this issue is resolved quickly, for his health, for your mental health, and I truly hope that the medication and help you are receiving allows you some ease.
NTA. This is something he can easily change. I almost wish I could go back in time to when I still had tonsils so I could hunt those little tonsil stones and get them out. I didn’t know they were a thing when I was a teenager. But anyways- he should at least get a tongue scraper. It works so well and it’s so easy.
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through besides the breath stuff.
NTA. My husband said you’re being too nice. That you just need to embarrass him so he can actually do something about it.
Oooooo you’re so on the money with me here. So I’m about 7 months pregnant and my husband has been having a S E V E R E breath problem since about right around the time we found out I was pregnant. I started by being nice and he would literally just laugh at me, shrug it off, said I’m just sensitive because I’m pregnant. Well he DID ask a doctor and she prescribed him omeprazole, because his is definitely gut related. You can smell it when he’s just breathing through his nose with his mouth closed. I eventually snapped on him multiple times in the exact same manner, because WTH? And I’ve told him it’s his diet he needs to fix. Like i said it’s in and off but it’s so repulsive and it makes me nearly vomit when it’s at its worst and I’m within 5 feet of him. He told me literally to just get over it and stop being an AH. Anyway, I basically had to tell him I would prepare his food for him (I’m a stay at home wife so it’s my job anyway) but he needed to make the effort when he’s out working not to just eat garbage that will cause this. I had to explain as calmly as I could that it hurts me that I can’t be close to him in my vulnerable state, when I need intimacy with him the most, but his breath is a barrier and he didn’t seem to care or brushed it off. Once I framed it like, I need his manly comfort and I will help him as much as I can, he started making more effort. He cut out lots of things and started with regular medicated mouth wash, regular omeprazole and some supplements. I have slacked on controlling the acidic foods in the house but I do my best. Maybe if you could muster up the strength – and I know this will be so incredibly difficult (understandably so) especially since it’s been going on for so long and have both gotten so routinely defensive – you need to catch him at a time when you’re mentally prepared to CALMLY explain something like this “babe, I’m feeling really disconnected from you lately with everything we’ve been through, and I really want us to find a way through this together. I’m really wanting closeness with you and I’m unable to because of the smell, which I know is not something you’re doing on purpose but we have to find a solution for this because I miss you”
Something along those lines. Because even though it DOES feel like he’s to blame, it is on purpose, and he’s blowing it off (and he probably is) what I realized is my husband was literally just feeling offended and shamed for something he didn’t cause but got the paralysis of not wanting to fix it because it seemed too far gone. I think we’ve all gotten to that point about something in our lives. So, framing it in a way that completely removes blame from his side is going to fix this for you even though it’s not fair. It is what we’re called to do in a marriage sometimes. Godspeed girlfriend, definitely NTAH but please dig deep, find the courage and you can get your hubby back.
How has his dentist not mentioned it? His PCP? His family or friends or ANYONE he knows?
Does he work? I can’t imagine this is good for his professional persona.
Is he afraid of the dentist?
Not the asshole. He’s had years to fix this. Breath shouldn’t be a shared trauma.
He wants you to be nice about it because that allows him to continue to ignore you without any uncomfortable feelings on his part.
He wants you to go back to a tolerable (for him) level of permanent unhappiness. He is comfortable with you being uncomfortable.
Regardless of the reasoning behind it, or the mental health basis, he’s being selfish as hell, and I’d probably make him sleep elsewhere, no kissing, really no close proximity so you don’t have to smell his awful breath until he decides to fix it.
NTA.
Tbh, I can’t believe you’re still having sex with him.
I would probably schedule an appt for him. Exact same thing happened with my husband, and his breath improved once his depression was treated. And yes, I scheduled the appt and went to it with him.
NTA and he needs to be a better husband and get this taken care of because it’s disgusting. Honestly, you’ve been nicer a lot longer than I would have been. It’s been 2yrs he needs to get his shit together and see a doctor. No excuses
NTA. Enough is enough. It’s past the point of being nice.
When he says he wants you to be nice about it, I’d say, “well I want you to do something about it—so I guess we are both unhappy. Now get your stinky-ass breath away from me.”
Your husband needs to make an appointment with a dentist. And he needs to do Monday.
And you shouldn’t have to make an appointment for him. Also, if he has a bacterial issue, even if it’s cavities, that can put you at risk for getting the same infection. And new moms don’t need anything thing else to deal with.
And you both might benefit from looking into counseling or a support group for your grief. You are dealing with something massive, and you shouldn’t have to do that by yourselves. I recommend checking local churches or community centers to see if they have a Griefshare program. I’ve known several people who have really benefitted from the program, even if they didn’t do much more than listen, it helped a lot. I wish I had gone when my mother died.
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My husband does work but it’s from home. I know for sure that other people can smell his breath, but nobody ever says anything. I’m certain nobody wants to hurt his feelings.
He went to the dentist for a cleaning 2 months ago and was diagnosed with gingivitis, everything else was good. He does brush his teeth regularly and use mouthwash, but he could floss more.
Overall though, he really just needs to see a doctor. I think what I’ll do is just sit down with him and we’ll make an appointment together. I’m just gonna push him to do it, and we’ll get it done. Should I have to be the one to take initiative? No. But I’ll do it.
Also, to those advising I have a heart to heart to let him know the extent of it etc. I have. Multiple times. I even did today, which is what inspired me to post here. But I am just going to make him schedule an appointment and we’ll go from there. I’m really hoping it’s not going to be a difficult fix. And I’m really hoping there isn’t something serious going on.
It sucks that his breath is cursed af but he’s the love of my life, and I’d rather be dealing with this fuckass problem than cheating or worse. If I have to choose a fuckass problem to have, I guess. Ugh. Lol.
NTA. I’m curious about some stuff, not sure how relevant it is lol. How long have y’all been together? I know you said his bad breath has been ongoing for 2 years. Just wondering if this suddenly started out of nowhere or if it’s always been this way. What is his dental hygiene like?
It’s wild to me that he isn’t embarrassed enough to go see a doctor. If my partner told me even once that my breath is so bad I need to see a doctor, I’d be mortified and go. Surely his bad breath is known by the people around him by now, might even have a mean lil nickname for him.
It could be a stomach issue like GERD. It could be lots of things. Whatever it is, he needs to take better care of his health for his child, you and himself. He can make a baby but not health care appointments? NTA. Sit with him while he makes an appointment(s)? Banished to the couch until he gets the issue addressed medically (and follows through til it’s resolved). Depression is an awful thing but we all have to do stuff we don’t want to at some point. It could also be a relatively easy problem to solve.
Does he have past history with medical professionals–doctor or dentist? If so, tell him you’re making an appointment for him and he’d better attend (then follow through) if he wants to continue living with you.
NTA at all. My husband ALSO has awful breath that I have to consistently fight him on, to the point where I will not hide my disgust either. It did get to a point where I told him that I couldn’t handle it and he needed to make a change big time. We had a big talk about it and came up with a plan together. He has tried a better mouth wash and toothpaste, and it helped for a while. We always make sure one of us has either mint or gum when out, and instead of straight up snapping at him, I make eye contact with him and scrunch my nose at him. We also got medical help. Saw our pcp and then a GI doctor. Turns out he has gastritis, which definitely causes bad breath. I’d recommend having a major sit down with him when you are comfortable to do so, especially given your current circumstances.
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He sucks for not addressing the issue. Hands down.
However, you are not faultless. You’ve given birth twice in two years (it takes two to make this happen-if you were SO unhappy why did you allow this?)
Also, you snap and yell at him. This isn’t making a man do anything. Why haven’t you demanded change? Why haven’t you told him he must get help?
Make your husband see a doctor. There must be a solution.
It could also be stomach issues
NTA.
I saw that you mentioned a dentist noting gingivitis. Im wondering, also, if he’s adhering to a keto or low carb diet? Keto and gingivitis = very bad breath. Add dry mouth (could be genetic, could be due to medications or other factors) and you’ve got a nasty trifecta of funk.
Until he decides to see a doctor, you can help yourself by replacing his toothpaste with one with Xylitol (like LiveFresh) – it’s expensive but only a pea-sized application is necessary and it will also help with plaque in hard to reach places. A chewing gum with Xylitol will help as well. Just to get you through it until he sees a doc.
NTA my husband had not terrible but bad breath for years. He got diagnosed with celiacs three years ago. Since he’s changed his diet to accommodate his diagnosis, I swear his breath is better than most people. I never would’ve thought of it being related pre-diagnosis. My husband took the initiative to take his concerns to a doctor and be persistent with them until they were fully addressed. It’s his body. Nobody else can do the work for him. Even if you did make the appointments, would he make difficult changes if setting an appointment was that hard for him? Probably not. He needs to get serious about it. You never know how serious an innocuous symptom may be.
If he gets grumpy about your comments, I personally would say “I will be nice about it when you are in progress on doing something about it” as one possibility.
There is also the possibility that there may be a time period between setting an appt and getting that appt, and it may be when you’re still over-stressed and over stimulated with everything going on.
Because of the implied promise to shut up when an appt is made, you may need to say something like “we discussed this for years, I need you to keep your breath out of my face until the problem is dealt with, I am in too much pain to deal with this.”
NTA
He wants you to be nice about it but he won’t do anything about it? Yeah he needs to get to a doctor and maybe a therapist too.
NTA
Ask his dentist or doctor to prescribed oral chlorhexidine mouth wash. It will help rebalance the bad biome going on in his mouth.
He likely also has tonsil issues & oral hygiene/tooth/gum and if he doesn’t then it’s purely GI issues and he needs to further address that by looking at his diet and pre and probiotics etc. And most of all his hygiene routine especially after meals*.
*Saline or heck just gargling regular water /rinsing helps as well especially after meals to debride/remove food particles until tooth brushing time & mouthwash etc.
Regardless though after about a week round of daily swishing and gargling with the RX mouth wash there will be vast improvement.
I’ve been there as a post partum mom and yeah my partners breath before was bad but I severely hated him breathing near me while pregnant and postpartum. Even the smell of the air that came from nostrils was bad…like if he was in a closed room and left i could go in there and tell he had been breathing/talking bad.
Mostly cause he was getting lax and also my super nose etc and those hormones lol.
Like I said it was a issue long before pregnancy and babies so much that I developed sorta a aversion to having him kiss me or try and make out before sex cause it was gross AF. (We’ve been together10 years? And by year 2 we hardly made out just jumped to sex….(Like sad? I’d rather give a BJ than make out and before I dated him I used to love making out with my SOs etc.)
(And yes I told him multiple times to address it and or get his tonsils out cause he gets very swollen tonsils and tonsillitis several times a year and really bad sometimes though with the Rx mouth wash the severity og those flare ups are much less for him as well now.
(I was prescribed the RX wash to help with Map mouth (but my breath wasn’t bad just had the physical issues due to hormones from pregnant And breastfeeding he accidentally used it and like magic symptoms got better for his breath and tonsils Not perfectly but Miles better. And his own doc prescribed him some as well as lidocaine oral wash to help with his off and on tonsil issues etc. ( he has really large crypts).
I can stand to kiss him now sometimes lol. And im trying to get over the kissing aversion since the breath/smelly breathing is better sometimes/tolerable and we are trying to make the relationship work as well etc.
I have stopped kissing my husband for this exact reason. He doesn’t understand why I don’t like being intimate anymore. I’ve asked him to fix it multiple times. Swishing with listerine doesn’t make the smell go away, it just makes it worse. I can’t handle it and it makes me gag. 🤷♀️ I won’t share drinks with him anymore either.
Hey so I struggled with this as well. I’m a germophobic neat freak so it wasn’t a hygiene thing for me.
Yes tonsil stones and post nasal drip from endless bloody allergies, but treatment after treatment and it didn’t completely resolve it. All the brushing, flossing, tongue cleaning, cheek cleaning, salt gargles, mouthwashes… you name it.
Along with allergies and thunderstorm asthma I also have skin that reacts to EVERYTHING. Loads of oral sensitivities – it was honestly reddit that made me most aware that not all foods are super spicy and burning and give you mouth blisters lol.
It was actually my adult son who suggested using only a sensitive toothpaste. Within 2 weeks – no gingivitis, no pain when brushing, no inflammation. So, breathe like a newborn baby.
I understand chronic depression only too well, and I also understand your frustration. I’m also a huge advocate of not catering to weaponised incompetence.
You’ve both been through a terrible experience that puts a strain on you both. My deepest sympathies are with you for your dreadful loss.
That said, maybe it will be beneficial to you both if you are willing and able to tackle it as a team. Help him set up appointments and a routine, making it very clear that once the initial organisation has been set, the rest is up to him to maintain.
I know it feels like a lot, and you also have been through this terrible ordeal, but sometimes working together is best for all concerned.
Whatever you do, I send you my warmest and most sincere hopes that you can move forward into a place of peace.
Get a water flosser and oil pulling product they worked wonders for my husband I have the same problem with him
My husband used to have a Coca Cola and junk food addiction. He had horrible gas and horrible bad breath. Endless “talking it out” didn’t work or persuade him that he was affecting those around him. It wasn’t until I ran out of patience and had a loud verbal fit that he made an effort to take Visbiome GI Care, high potency probiotic and stopped drinking 8 cokes a day that his hygiene improved. Ugh… those awful memories… I feel for you.
PS Costco pharmacy sells it over the counter for a good price. It requires refrigeration.
Oh hell no, NTA. I cannot stand bad breath and I would have been way meaner way sooner than you under way less stressful circumstances.
Damn, babe. I’m not one to use sex as a weapon, but sex and kissing would 100% be off the table for me until that was dealt with. No one, no matter how much I love them, is getting in my face intimately with halitosis breath.
Sending thoughts, prayers and the highest of kudos, because I would have lost my shit and burned the house down by now. NTA
NTA, he needs to go to the dentist and/or an ENT
Hey there I’m so sorry you’re going through all this and I totally understand the tonsils smell. It absolutely rancid and since you are pregnant it must smell 100x awful. It’s been two years and he hasn’t done anything. When I found out I had tonsils I tried my best to increase my hygiene, floss, gargle, brush, etc. None worked because I have the worst reflux which made my tonsils worse. On my second year I talked with a doctor about getting my tonsils removed because that’s how disgusted I was with myself with the tonsils issue. I wanted change because I was self conscious about how this may affect relations around me especially at work and in my personally relationships. My tonsils are gone now and I have no more tonsils stones, tonsil removal surgery really sucks tho, it is definitely not a walk in the park and I lost a lot of weight from just drinking liquids for two weeks through a straw. I was also on opioids for the pain, that’s how bad the pain was. However my tonsil stones are out and I am happy I don’t have to worry about introducing myself to someone and them getting a waft of some foul smelling tonsil stone. I absolutely understand your irritation and concern. I would sit down and talk to your husband again about this issue. Acknowledge you are being more frustrated and angry because of the hormones and pregnancy and apologize for it but let him know you are severely concerned with his tonsil stones issue, especially his health and talk to and ear, throat doctor about what can be done to remove tonsils or manage his mouth hygiene. There are also tonsil stones removers that shoot water in your tonsils but it’s really hard to buy the right one that’s only for tonsils and not for floss, the flossing one hurts you. The majority on the market are water flossers. However even with the tonsil water jets sometimes the caves of the tonsils are too deep and it’s extremely difficult to get out.