A couple of months ago, my friends threw a party. There was a very cute girl there. We were flirty, and I could tell straight away she was incredibly intelligent. I asked her out, I was met with “well… I don’t date, but we can hangout.” The next week, I was at her house. I was at peace almost immediately. It was so warm and inviting. We ate, talked, made out a little, but when I initiated sex, she said I had to get tested first, and that after I did, we could spend the night together.
I rushed to the doctor and got testing done as soon as I could get in. She made me read the information pamphlet for her birth control. The sex was absolutely incredible, and it still is.
We don’t just have sex, some nights I’ll go over and she’ll read me things she’s been writing, or give me a massage, she got a nasty knot out of my calves. We chill with her dogs, we make dinner. It’s great.
I’ve asked her to go to a family party, she told me she doesn’t want me or anyone in my family to get the wrong idea. We ran into my brother at the grocery store, she said “we’re just friends”
I’ve brought this up to our friends and they all started talking about how she doesn’t date. That I need to slow down before she drops me completely.
My problem is, I’ve never felt this way before. I’ve never wanted a woman to love me like I want this one. I would do anything for an official date… I feel like I’m losing my mind. She said that she isn’t interested in hurting again, but I’m not trying to hurt her.
How do I assure her that I do care for her? Is this rare for a woman? I’ve never met someone like this.
Tl;dr interested in a woman that doesn’t want a relationship with me. Looking for advice on how to show her that I just want to love her… any advice appreciated.