Hey everyone, I’m really lost about how to handle this, so I’d love some outside perspective.
About a week ago, my best friend met a guy on Facebook. They started seeing each other immediately, and she’s already been staying over at his place multiple nights. Just two days ago, he told her that he has a serious heart condition and that he basically stopped getting treatment because he was depressed. He said his body “doesn’t produce enough blood,” that strong emotions could literally kill him, and that his doctors only gave him two years to live.
He also told her that his friends stopped accompanying him to the hospital because they couldn’t handle all the “bad news” anymore, and that his ex was abusive and the reason he almost died of depression. Now he says he’s finally feeling hope again because he met her, and that he’ll go back to treatment “soon” but when she offered to go with him, he said he wanted to rest for now, that he will start soon and she can go with him (first he needs to do some treatments to see if he can do this treatment)
It’s only been a week, and honestly, something feels very wrong. My friend is completely blinded by the story and says she believes him. I told her to be careful, but I feel like she thinks I’m just being negative or jealous?
What’s worrying me even more is that she said even if it turns out to be a lie, she might stay with him anyway because she’s already in love and “really likes him.”
She even mentioned that if he gets worse, she might drop out of college to take care of him — and that’s really upsetting because she worked so hard to get into a program she finally enjoys.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to be the “bad friend” who tells her not to believe him, but I also can’t just watch this happen. What would you do in this situation? How can I help her see things clearly without pushing her away?
He also said how much he loves her and wants to marry her soon, but also telling her to not imagine them as an old couple because he will die soon
TDLR; My best friend met a guy a week ago who already moved in and told her he has a terminal heart condition, can’t produce enough blood, and might die in two years. He refuses treatment for now, and she believes everything. She even said she’d stay with him even if he’s lying because she’s already in love. She’s talking about quitting college to take care of him, and I don’t know how to help or what to say. Something feels really off.