Hi, I (22F) have never been in a relationship before, and it’s starting to make me feel very insecure.
For context, in highschool, I was more focused on academics and extracurriculars instead of relationships. It didn’t bother me as much at the time because I just told myself, “It’s ok, I’ll get a boyfriend in college.” Well, college rolled around, and it was the same story. I focused more on academics, clubs, and making platonic friends. The only thing that changed was that I went on more dates. But the dates never progressed into anything serious. Once again, I told myself, “It’s ok, I’ll just start dating when I’m settled in at a job.”
Now I’m out of college, and I’m working my first job. The problem is that I’m working in Japan (I’m originally from America). I don’t really speak the language, and I live in a rural area with not too many other foreigners around. So I feel like my dating prospects are even lower than they would be otherwise.
I just feel like everybody around me is in a happy relationship, and it makes me feel sad because that’s what I want too. But I don’t feel like I can achieve that. I want to fall in love so bad and be romantic and do couple-y things with somebody and go on dates and just feel loved and appreciated. I’m tired of feeling lonely. But the prospect of meeting someone new and telling them I’ve never been in a relationship before fills me with embarrassment. I feel like I’m far behind other people my age.
** TL;DR;** : I guess I’m just wondering if anyone’s been in the similar boat as me. :/