I’ll keep it short and simple.
My girl has this habit of going and fetching for other guys attention for the 4 years ive been with her she has always had another guy who she makes as her bestie and i always notice them doing things that were clear indicators that they like her.
Ofco she never agrees to that but this has been the biggest reason me and her have had like 50 break ups over.
This time even there’s this guy who clearly likes her (I’m not necessarily the insecure type and i notice the guy cant even keep eye contact with me)
But the problem is small things like me having a conversation with my girl over how in all situations shes always sitting w that guy
She updates him abt everything she studies with him what and what not.
And i hate that.
I trust my girl but not the guy. i hate this situation. When ever i ask her to tone it down she gets possessive says things like “He doesn’t come sit w me i sit with him” which i find disgusting and just gross.
I love her too fucking much man. This girl she’s my everything. I wanna do everything with her and small things matter so much to me. I don’t remember the last time i ate out without her because i just don’t find any joy in it.
On the other hand she doesn’t care about anything she eats out with everyone
Shares all experiences with everyone. I feel like there’s nothing special for her and when ever i talk about this with her she says something like “we go on drives together and sit together and what not” like she doesn’t get it.
Man i want this girl and I can’t deal w her not being in my life. I need help please tell me what to do. And yes i know this relationship has stopped bringing me joy soley because of her actions but i don’t wanna let go of it.
What should i do (also she never lies to me and tells me things but she does hide stuff every now and then)
We both are in the same university
Idk man help
TL;Dr me and my girl are in the same uni and she has this guy she has made too comfortable w her and doesn’t see how its wrong.
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She loves the attention. It’s an emotional affair, with a clear line she is not crossing. But it boosts her confidence and makes her feel beautiful. The real danger is if the line gets blurred, for whatever reason. Alcohol involved, she is mad at you, etc.
Without really knowing her it’s hard to determine if there is also a hint here of telling you about the attention, sort of like…she can have other men anytime…so behave.
Bottom line, if you are uncomfortable with it, and your boundaries are different than hers, I would not allow the relationship to evolve any further than what it is now. Seek someone with your same boundaries and comfort zones.