Posting this for accountability – sharing this will make me more likely to act on it. Also, I am kind of upset about the situation, so venting helps. I am already feeling a lot more positive about the situation though now that I have a plan.
I, 24F, am an overly clingy girlfriend. I love physical affection, spending quality 1-2-1 time together, sex, and deep conversations. Admittedly, it is very difficult these days to get this. I think I am a bit too much for him – I think I expect him to be more affectionate, touchy, sexual etc. than is realistic and I think he’s pulled away because of how I am. You see, we have a bit of a dead bedroom problem. I’m a bit of a freak, really, and I think I make it too obvious. I’m always trying to be sexy sending cheeky texts, wearing lingerie randomly, saying how I’d like to dominate him (he’s into femdom so I try and cater to that) but he’s not interested and even prefers porn, lol. This applies to pretty much everything else. I honestly think I overdo stuff. I’m too huggy, talk too much, blah blah. I literally will sit next to him, doing nothing, waiting for him to finish doom scrolling on tiktok. You get the point.
So, from now on, I will be investing more in myself. I will be less clingy. No more trying to be awkwardly flirty. No more waiting around for a conversation to occur. I will be spending more time on my own. I will pick up extra shifts at work. When I get home I will finally complete video games that I’ve been meaning to complete. I will focus on my clay making hobbies. I will be having fun practicing new eyeshadow looks. I will go out for walks more as I need to get more exercise in anyway. I’ve already got a head start in investing in myself as I have recently lost 50lbs and am now looking good and slim. I’m a healthy weight! Honestly now that I’ve written my goals down, I’m feeling a lot more positive about the future.
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I know guys who would would kill for a girl like this. sounds like a compatibility issue to me unfortunately, are you happy with the way things are? seems that issues like this usually boil down to acceptance and if you can accept it great, if not I wouldn’t stay and wait until things get worse
Kind of awesome you’re owning up to this in public.
It’s so easy to feel clingy when you love someone deeply, but recognizing it’s a pattern is huge. Start with tiny steps, like dedicating 30 minutes each day to doing something just for yourself, even if that means zoning out on YouTube or re-reading your favorite book. The more time you spend focusing inward, the less dependent you’ll feel on external validation. And honestly? This newfound confidence might just make you way more attractive to him in the long run