TL;DR: I’ve been dealing with a complicated situation for two years with a classmate (S). I developed feelings for her, but she used me for notes and then screamed at me when she found out about my feelings. After multiple cycles of blocking and unblocking, I’m feeling used and frustrated. I don’t know how to handle this anymore and need advice on how to move on.
So, here’s my story. I’ve been in college for almost two years now, and there’s this girl (let’s call her S) who I’ve had an ongoing, complicated situation with. This all started back in my first semester.
At the time, I barely knew her, but I ended up developing feelings for her—though I never told anyone, including her. Towards the end of the semester, we were both working on our records for programs, and there was this mix-up. Another girl, who I didn’t know, had left S’s record with her. I didn’t realize this, so I took the record home. S later calls me, asking if I have it, and when I check, I find out I do. Instead of understanding, she flips out on me—cursing me out multiple times over the phone in front of my parents. It was an uncomfortable, awkward situation that I couldn’t escape.
After that, I gave her back her record, but things didn’t get any better. By the second semester, everyone knew I had feelings for her (though I never told anyone). Somehow, the message got twisted, and she found out about my feelings, but instead of talking to me, she screamed at me in class saying, “If I like you, it doesn’t mean you have to like me.”
After that, I tried to move on. There was this cycle where I would block her and unblock her, but I still found myself stuck in this loop. Fast forward to my fourth semester, I’ve blocked her again for the third time, and I feel like I’m done.
The thing is, she keeps using me. In labs, she knows I’ll help her, so she always sits next to me. She only reaches out when she needs something—specifically, notes when she misses class. She doesn’t care about me as a person; it’s just all about her convenience. No birthday wishes, no casual “how are you” texts. Just notes, and then it’s like I don’t exist.
I’m tired of feeling like I’m being used, and I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried moving on and blocking her, but she keeps coming back. I’m just so done with this situation, and I don’t know how to handle it anymore. Has anyone else been through something like this? What should I do?