I don’t really know if it is and I’m really sorry if I’m over reacting but whenever he hugs me he’s been doing this to me and my sister since I was kid whenever I give him a hug he always squeezes my butt it’s weird I’m really uncomfortable with it.
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Yes. Most definitely.
Sounds inappropriate at minimum. Have you told him to stop? Have you told another trustworthy adult?
I don’t invite an aunt to family gatherings anymore after she did that to me.
Have you told him how uncomfortable it makes you and to stop? He shouldn’t be doing it anyway IMO, and I have no intention of victim-blaming, but he’s going to continue crossing that boundary as long as you don’t enforce it. If you’ve already told him to stop and he keeps doing it anyway, you’re going to have to be more forceful. Be loud when telling him you said not to grab your ass, push him away, smack his hand away, complain to your parents and grandmother, whatever it takes to give him some social consequence and make it well known you will not put up with it.
Depends on your culture and do not think much about it. You do not like it tell him or just do not think about it.
Please tell someone or report him to the police. This is not normal or appropriate.
If he’s been doing it since you were kids I doubt there’s any ill intent there. He grew up in a different time and might just equate that to like a friendly noogie or something. Either way if your uncomfortable you should say something
Not SA but it’s inappropriate, You should voice out how you feel. First talk to your parents, and next time he do it tell him politely not to do it because you are not a kid anymore and it makes you uncomfortable.
Don’t be rude about it for the first time you bring it up and give him an out, cuz he might he not even be thinking it that way. Old generation have very differnt upbring than us. Then, if she still continues after that THEN it’s a problem and crossing into SA territory.
My mom used to do this to me and my brother. I wondered the same thing because when I got upset she’d just laugh it off and be like “oh don’t overreact, I’m your mom!”
When I saw my little brother get upset about it too I went and talked to him about how he felt. He hated it as much as I did. I felt obligated as his big brother to put an end to it so the next time she did it I absolutely lost it.
In hindsight it is mostly crazy to me now how much I had to yell and scream for her to finally hear that it wasn’t okay for her to grab her 11 and 13 year old sons’ asses.
It is absolutely SA. People convince themselves it’s not because it’s not as dramatic and devastating as what’s usually discussed as SA. But it crosses a very clear line and boundary: don’t grope kids, period. It has an impact.
Yes. How disgusting.