Im autistic, and disregarding anything else, would my lack of facial expressions be off putting or hurtful? Its not a conscious thing, but I have noticed at home with family I’m comfortable with, I’m a lot more expressive, so i might get better later into this hypothetical relationship.
Another question, is it a generally more common thing for women to expect me to know what they want without telling me? or is it just the few I’ve met, i don’t have much experience with women and id like to know if this is something i should expect, or if its just them, or is it just a common thing for people in general?
Is talking a lot a bad thing? My friends don’t like how much i talk, but i want to know if thats something women don’t like either.
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Surround yourself with neurodivergent people that get this. We didn’t know it at the time but me and my husband are both autistic I have ADHD and OCD sprinkled in there. I say what I mean and sometimes over explain my husband gets this. If I say too much he will tell me he doesn’t need an explanation. Honestly rude if you don’t know him. He’s hypo verbal I’m hyper verbal. We work with each other knowing how each other processes. He has a very stoic look naturally. Not an approachable look. But that’s just him relaxed. But the amount of people that will trauma dump because they get this vibe off of both of us is kinda funny.
Every woman is different some will appreciate you being chatty while others won’t. I hope that helps
Yes, it gives me an uncomfortable vibe when people are inexpressive, because they’re difficult to read. As humans, we look for patterns to understand and asses a threat. It’s not because of you, it’s an evolutionary thing.
Regarding the women question. Women are people. Could be that they were expecting you to get social cues just like any other human. I bet men would expect the same.
I value someone who talks a lot as long as they’re talking with me, not at me.
Facial expressions are part of nonverbal communication. Without them, it would definitely be harder to connect for most people. Disparities between one’s words and expressions are subconsciously perceived as a potential lack of honesty. E.g. saying you’re happy to be somewhere with a stony face.
First question. I wouldn’t say hurtful. But lacking facial expressions can definitely cause some misunderstandings to people that doesn’t know you like that.
Second question. Maybe this is more of a case by case basis based on the person’s personality. Personally, I’m usually a straightforward person. I don’t expect people to know what I want if I don’t tell them what I want, and vice versa. I feel like this is generally true for most straightforward people. As for the others, I don’t know.
Third question. If you’re the kind of person that talks a lot, then you should be that person. Some people won’t like that, and some will. But I think this is how you find people that genuinely likes your company yk.
(P.S. I’m also young, unwise and inexperienced so this might be a blind leading the blind moment LMFAO)
Look for an autistic person or an allistic person who gets it.