Before I start, I really consider my girlfriends emotions and physical pain when she is on her period. I do everything that I can to make sure that she is okay. I do acknowledge that as a man, I will never understand what that feels like.
My girlfriend and I have been together for two years(known her for seven years, we were friends before). In most cases when she is on her period, she tends to take it out on me by at times, being really mean. I can give an example as to what happened yesterday: We have been moving into a new apartment while working so you can imagine the stress. Great thing is that we live in the same block so its easy to move. I decided to wake up really early in the morning to go fetch the coffee machine from the old apartment, go to a store to get her coffee and make sure that she has her morning coffee and breakfast, as how I always do it. While making the coffee, she walks in after waking up, greets me (her tone is a bit off) and the first thing she says is, “why are you using that spoon to make the coffee? You should be using a specific spoon for that”. I didnt react. I just kept it moving.
Throughout the day, I thought that hey since, I am in the neighborhood, let me go check on her at lunch time at her work. She is obviously off but says its because shes been working hard. Throughout the whole day, I started questioning what I did wrong, I even asked her if I did anything wrong and she said no, dont worry, everythings okay. In the evening, we are at home and I asked her why she was so grumpy in the morning and why she didnt acknowledge the fact that I made time to make sure she had her coffee and breakfast? Suddenly, she responds with, “yeah actually I was grumpy because you left the toilet seat up, I told you that we need to close it because when we flush, germs could come out the toilet”, which contradicts what she said when I asked her if I did something wrong. I was and still am upset.
The reason is because, I have been taking care of my girlfriend for a very long time now. What I mean by that is, paying for monthly groceries for the house, me being the person that cooks, organizes food, I am there for her whenever she struggles with her mental health (depression) and the one time I leave the toilet seat up (I was tired, woke up in the morning, was not thinking because I just wanted to go get the coffee stuff), she reacts this way?
Am I over reacting?
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Honestly if she’s only snapping at you on her period or if she has PMS I’d understand it’s the hormones, but she knows this happens on a schedule, it is really something she should work on or just ask to be left alone.
I don’t know you but I think you have to have a sincere talk with her, I understand it’s a great feeling when your partner does everything for you but she needs to give back, relationships rely on giving and receiving equally to thrive. You make it sound like she’s taking advantage of you.