This Coworker “Exposed” His Female Colleague for Being on a Dating App, and His Obsession is Getting Creepy

Being a woman in a male-dominated field is already an extreme sport. You have to work twice as hard to get half the respect, all while dodging “helpful” explanations of things you already know. But one woman on Reddit is dealing with a workplace hurdle that is so high school, it is actually painful to read. Her coworker found her on a dating app, and he is treating this mundane discovery like the scandal of the century.

Our narrator loves her job. She is younger than most of her colleagues by about twenty years, which already puts her in a unique position. She is just trying to do her work and live her life. But then, one of her coworkers decided to turn her personal life into the office water cooler topic.

He claims his “brother” found her on a dating app. Right. Let’s just pause there. The classic “asking for a friend” defense. Whether it was his brother or he was doom-scrolling Tinder in the breakroom, the result was the same. He found her profile. And instead of swiping left and minding his own business like a normal adult, he decided to make an announcement.

He made it a point to let everyone know. He treated it as breaking news. “Extra, extra, read all about it! Single woman in her 20s uses modern technology to date!” The groundbreaking nature of this discovery is truly staggering.

But it wasn’t just a “hey, saw you on the apps” comment. It was malicious. The narrator realized quickly that the tone wasn’t friendly banter. It was a “damn she’s desperate” narrative. He was painting her as pathetic for simply existing on a platform that millions of people use every single day.

She thought it would blow over. It didn’t. It has been weeks, or maybe longer, and this guy and a few of his cronies are still bringing it up. They mock her. They tease her in a way that feels “demeaning.” And the cherry on top of this toxic sundae? He has started giving her unsolicited advice on her appearance.

Let’s be real about what is happening here. This isn’t about her being “desperate.” This is about a man who feels threatened, entitled, or rejected. Maybe he swiped right and she didn’t match. Maybe he is just threatened by a young, competent woman invading his “boys club.” Whatever the reason, he is using her dating life to try and put her in her place.

She wants to avoid an HR fiasco because she loves the job and plans to leave in 2026 anyway. She just wants to survive the next year without being bullied by a grown man who acts like a middle school mean girl.

So, what should she do? She asked for a comeback that would embarrass him, and honestly, the best way to embarrass a man like this is to point out his obsession. He thinks he is making her look small, but he is actually making himself look like a stalker.

The next time he brings it up, she needs to look him dead in the eye, with a look of pure confusion and pity, and say, “Why are you so obsessed with my dating life? It’s getting kind of weird.”

Don’t get angry. Don’t get defensive. Just get bored. Treat his comments like a weird, embarrassing habit he has, like picking his nose in public. If he comments on her appearance, a simple “I didn’t ask for your opinion on my body” followed by an awkward silence works wonders. He wants a reaction. Deny him the satisfaction, and watch him shrink.