This Dad-to-be Skipped the Ultrasound for His Grandpa’s Funeral, and His Wife is Furious

Life has a really nasty habit of throwing everything at you all at once. Just when you are celebrating a new beginning, you are forced to say a final goodbye. It is the circle of life, sure, but it is also incredibly stressful. One expectant father on Reddit found himself caught in the ultimate emotional crossfire when the universe decided to schedule his grandfather’s funeral at the exact same time as his unborn daughter’s anatomy scan.

Our narrator is a 26-year-old guy who is absolutely pumped to be a dad. He and his 25-year-old wife are expecting a baby girl in November. He is doing all the sweet dad stuff like talking to the belly and feeling for kicks. They had their big 20-week ultrasound scheduled weeks in advance. For those who don’t know, this is the big one where they check all the organs and limbs. It is a major milestone.

But then, reality crashed the party. His grandfather’s health had been declining, and he sadly passed away. As the family grieved and began organizing arrangements, they scheduled the funeral for a Wednesday at 10 AM. The husband was asked to be a pallbearer, which is a huge honor and a heavy responsibility. He needs to be there to carry his grandfather to his final resting place.

The problem? The funeral is scheduled for the exact same time as the ultrasound.

Now, most rational people would look at this situation and see a clear, albeit sad, path forward. A funeral is a one-time event. You cannot reschedule a burial. You cannot ask the funeral home to just push it back a few hours because you have an appointment. An ultrasound, however, can often be rescheduled, or in the worst-case scenario, the partner can go alone and video call the other parent.

But the wife? She is not having it. When he told her he planned to go to the funeral—again, as a pallbearer—she got upset. He offered to FaceTime during the appointment, acknowledging it isn’t the same but trying to find a compromise. Her response was a dagger to the heart: “yeah, but this is your daughter.”

I have to take a deep breath here. That is unimaginable emotional manipulation. She is essentially telling him that mourning his grandfather means he doesn’t love his daughter. She is pitting a literal unborn child against a deceased family member in a contest for his attention. It is cruel, and frankly, it is incredibly selfish.

The husband is now emotionally torn. He is excited about the baby, obviously, but he is also grieving. He feels like his feelings are being completely steamrolled by his wife’s demands. And he is absolutely right. Just because she is carrying the baby doesn’t mean her schedule dictates the entire universe.

Let’s be real here. Pregnancy hormones are a beast, and I am sure she is anxious about the scan. That is valid. But anxiety is not a license to forbid your husband from burying his grandfather. He isn’t skipping the appointment to go golfing. He is going to a funeral.

So, is he the ahole? Absolutely not. N-T-A. The wife needs to take a serious step back and realize that the world does not stop spinning just because she is pregnant. Her husband deserves the space to say goodbye to his family. The baby will still be there when he gets back. His grandfather won’t.