I have read countless and countless of posts and comments about being late, time blindness, ADHD, and other explanations given to the inability of being on time.
Yet there is one thing, one thing that you will never find in any of these comments : it’s the choice of consciously arriving an hour early. Not 5min early, not leaving 15min earlier than necessary. I’m talking about planning for being there an entire hourearly. These people never, ever do that. Why? “Because then I’ll be early and will have to wait”. The solution to their “lifelong struggle that is beyond their control” is out of reach, by choice.
Asking people who are chronically late to plan for earlier doesn’t work, because they consciously know the event is later, and they don’t want to have to wait. It’s not worth the risk of having to wait.
This means to them, that not having to be early and wait takes priority over respecting your time.
These people are assholes, not because they’re late (which might or might not be in their control), but because they refuse to be early.
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I have bad ADHD. I’m never late for anything.
Agreed. It’s 100 percent a choice. Their time is more important that yours full stop.
The opinion is just ableism
Duh
And this is coming from someone who is late all the time
Of course it’s a choice.
No, that’s because I have things to do and places to be before I need to be somewhere at a given time. “Several scheduled things in one day” is a thing that exists.
This is true, I am completely time-blind, time makes no sense to me and is not linear, but I use reminders on my phone and calendar to aim to arrive everywhere hours ahead of time.
And I can’t just set one reminder, if I have an appointment I set reminders every day leading up to it, and every hour of that day counting down to when I have to leave, this is what you have to do when time does not cooperate with you.
I could set one reminder for that morning, see it pop up, then blink, and it’s three months later, or my appointment isn’t for another month, you have to pin down time to make it cooperate with you.
If this is unpopular, that’s wild af
It’s 100% a choice and is completely disrespectful
Being consistently late sends the message to other people that their time doesn’t matter. It’s disrespectful. Oh you were 30 mins late because you were SO focused on that task? Well why do you think that “task” was more important than my 30 mins I can’t get back? Why didn’t you set up an alarm? This is not about extenuating circumstances. This is about the person who decides to do a chore/task before getting ready. The person who thinks they “get ready fast” but never leaves enough time. They’ll always say “It takes me like 10 minutes” when in reality it’s 30.
True words