Grief is an incredibly complicated emotion. Navigating the sudden loss of a loved one is hard enough on its own. Trying to process that heavy grief while maintaining a brand new relationship requires a massive amount of grace and understanding from your partner. But one young woman completely failed the empathy test when her boyfriend had to say a tragic final goodbye to his former love.
The Original Poster is a twenty year old guy who went through an absolute nightmare scenario. About a year ago his ex girlfriend Anna was involved in a horrific car accident. She sustained over twenty severe injuries including a lacerated liver and a punctured lung. Despite the medical team doing everything they could to save her she never woke up and was kept on a ventilator.
For months this poor guy sat by her hospital bed completely drained and devastated. Anna had amazing parents who eventually sat him down and gave him the kindest permission imaginable. They gently told him that Anna would want him to find someone new and continue living his life. After doing the hard work in therapy he finally put himself back out there and met a new girl named Katie.
Everything changed on May second. Anna’s family made the agonizing decision to finally pull her off life support to end her suffering. The Original Poster obviously wanted to be there in the hospital room for this devastating moment. Katie knew all about the tragic medical situation and seemed completely fine with him going to support the family.
The hospital room was intensely emotional. When he got to her bedside he kissed Anna on the forehead, ran his hands through her hair, and told her he loved her. After the medical staff officially removed the breathing tube he leaned down and kissed her one last time on the lips. He whispered his final I love you to the girl who held a massive piece of his young heart.
Following her passing the family held a funeral where he was asked to deliver a eulogy. Katie actually attended the solemn service with him and sat in the audience. During his emotional speech he publicly said I love you to Anna one last time. It was a beautiful and heartbreaking tribute to a young life cut incredibly short.
Instead of comforting her grieving boyfriend after the funeral Katie decided to start a massive fight. She was furious about his eulogy and aggressively demanded to know what he meant when he said he loved a deceased woman. Feeling suddenly guilty and overwhelmed the guy confessed to the final kiss in the hospital room.
Katie went absolutely nuclear. She threw a massive tantrum, packed her bags, and ran straight back to her parents house. She then had the absolute audacity to accuse him of cheating on her with a brain dead woman who was actively being taken off life support.
Let us be crystal clear here. Saying a final goodbye to a dying person is not infidelity. It was not a romantic or sexual kiss. It was the desperate closure of a grieving twenty year old who just watched a piece of his history slip away forever. Accusing someone of cheating in a hospital hospice room is a level of unhinged insecurity that belongs in a psychiatric textbook.
It takes a deeply selfish and cruel person to make a tragic funeral all about their own ego. Katie knew exactly what she was signing up for when she started dating a guy who was actively grieving an ex partner on life support. You cannot agree to be the supportive new girlfriend and then throw a jealous fit because the dying girl got a farewell kiss.
The internet overwhelmingly agreed that this guy is absolutely not the ahole. He showed incredible love and respect to Anna and her grieving family. Katie showed everyone exactly who she is during a moment of profound vulnerability. He needs to let the new girlfriend stay at her parents house permanently and take all the time he needs to heal from this devastating loss. What would you do if your partner acted this incredibly jealous after a funeral? Tell us in the comments below!