I’m not sure I’m looking for advice, or just looking for a place to rant before I go on with my day. I have so much college work to do but I need to get this off my chest first.
Attracting troublesome and unhealthy people has been an ongoing pattern for me. I often find myself turning best friends with outcasts. It’s not that I can’t speak with the normal and popular people, but I tend to feel almost an instant connections to those who are more problematic.
The type of friends I’ve made in the past few years:
- People with severe mental health issues.
- Loner people who had bad relationship with everyone else for a reason.
- People with addictions (alcohol/drugs/partying/sex)
- Older men who wanted to f*ck me.
It’s not that I dislike them. I’m very grateful for anyone that has been kind and helpful to me. But it can be so draining to get involved with their mental health issues, frequent arguments and terrible lifestyles. I did so much of that yesterday and now I just feel like I need to distance myself and focus on other things. I want to be there for them, but I need to focus on myself firsthand.
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You sound like someone i know. Odds are you’re very empathetic and love helping people…. at your own expense. The only thing that works for my friend is not letting just anyone in. Again, when you’re super accepting and kind, you don’t say no a lot to people. Start saying no. Don’t lose your kindness but don’t dole it out to just anyone.
to answer why is hard and takes time. for now, you may want to be mindful about it. you may navigate yourself if you aware of the pattern.
to answer why, insecurity comes to mind. but this is above my paygrade.
You’re an empath. You bring peace when they are around you with your healing energy.