my long distance boyfriend (22m) left me (21f). we met in September (2024) and we fell in love. I really wanted to see him so I paid an airbnb (R$1000) and got R$5000 from my father to travel from BAHIA to SAO PAULO (brazil). I took an 5h bus travel and a 2H flight at 3AM to see him. his financial situation isn’t really good so I paid everything for him because he looked like a happy child when he got gifts, he even told me he didn’t get anything since his 8th birthday. we spent 10days together.
yesterday, he decided to leave me because “we were fighting too much” (we werent) and now he’s posting pics on instagram, tweeting a lot and everything seems ok for him. but i cannot stop crying since he left me. i think of him as a coward now and i hate myself for liking him.
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You are so young and have so much life ahead of you. So many more experiences to have. Don’t beat yourself up for loving someone where it didn’t work out. I promise there is so much more out there ❤️
First of all, I am sorry to hear that. You clearly loved him and were ready to do anything to make him happy. He might’ve been overloaded with everything that happened, maybe he felt a type of inferiority with all the financial issues, unfortunately people, especially men sometimes, experience that and don’t feel good enough so they tend to try to escape with the fear of not being enough or not providing enough. The posting as if nothing happened is definitely weird and off though. If it will make you feel relieved, try talking to him again and ask what really went wrong. If not just choose your own peace and focus on yourself, as you seem to be blaming yourself for a wrong partner choice. We don’t always know how people will act, so please don’t hate yourself for liking him, you just got to see how capable you were of loving and you still have that capability for other people that will be out there waiting for you and will be ready to love you just as much.
Never pay for a man.