They say you should never ask a question if you are not fully prepared to hear the brutal honest answer. This is especially true when it comes to the highly sensitive topic of dating. If you are constantly getting rejected and decide to ask your sister for a reality check, you better buckle up. One woman on Reddit recently did exactly that, and her unfiltered honesty caused a massive family meltdown.
The Original Poster is a woman who recently moved back into her family home. Like many millennials during the stay at home orders, she relocated to look after her aging parents. Her twenty four year old younger brother also lives in the house. He has Aspergers, is very high functioning, and has his own specific set of quirks.
While living under the same roof, the sister discovered that her younger brother had been actively trying to enter the dating scene. He sadly confessed that his romantic pursuits had been pretty unsuccessful in recent months. He even managed to score a first date, but the poor guy revealed that his date literally got up and left the table after only half an hour.
Having a date walk out on you after thirty minutes is incredibly brutal. But the sister knew exactly why it happened, and the reason is not flattering in the slightest. She explained that their parents severely coddled him his entire life. Because he was on the autism spectrum and happened to be the only boy in their family, he was treated like an absolute fragile prince.
The toxic boy mom dynamic is largely to blame for his current dating failures. The mother constantly pumped up his ego by telling him he was significantly smarter and more advanced than everyone else who is neurotypical. Hearing that repetitive praise built a massive superiority complex. He grew up genuinely believing he is an intellectual giant compared to the rest of society.
This inflated ego morphed into something deeply problematic when directed at women. Thanks to his upbringing, he firmly believes that women are inherently irrational and completely illogical people. He interacts with his own sisters through a lens of extreme condescension. He says incredibly hurtful things just to get a reaction out of them.
When his sisters rightfully get upset by his cruel comments, he immediately deploys his favorite toxic catchphrase. He looks at them and declares that they are being irrational, hysterical, and illogical. He then completely excuses his own bad behavior by claiming he is just being honest and they simply cannot accept the truth. It is classic gaslighting and it drives the women in his family absolutely insane.
So when this guy looked at his sister and genuinely asked why women do not like him, she did not hold back. She served him the exact same brutal honesty he always claims to value. She looked him in the eye and explained that his specific way of talking to women comes across as extremely demeaning and borderline sexist. She pointed out that he acts like he can read every woman perfectly, yet he is pretty much always wrong.
Instead of accepting the honest feedback he literally asked for, the brother completely crumbled. His fragile ego could not handle a taste of his own medicine. The nerve was struck so deeply that he ran straight to their parents to tattle. He loudly complained that his sister had viciously attacked him over things he supposedly cannot control.
Let us be crystal clear about something important. Having autism does not force a person to be sexist or use words like hysterical to demean women. Those are learned behaviors fueled by a lifetime of parental enabling. But true to form, the parents immediately took his side. The sister is now in massive hot water for allegedly ruining his precious confidence.
The sister admitted she feels a tiny bit bad, but mostly she feels an overwhelming sense of relief. This was the very first time in her entire life she was allowed to tell him exactly how annoying and toxic his behavior truly is. Growing up, their mother always blamed the daughters whenever the golden boy got upset. The sister finally broke that cycle of silence.
The internet unanimously declared that the sister is absolutely not the ahole. She gave her brother the most valuable dating advice he will ever receive. You cannot walk around treating women like emotional, illogical creatures and then act completely shocked when they refuse to sit through a dinner date with you. His confidence needed to be ruined so he could rebuild it with actual respect for women. What would you do if your sibling asked for a harsh reality check? Tell us in the comments below!