I had the same boyfriend all three years of high school. We got married at 19 and had twin daughters. My ex-husband and I divorced 5 1/2 years ago. No abuse or cheating, we just had an honest conversation about our relationship and realized that we had never “experienced” the world because we had been together since we were kids. Since our divorce, we’ve maintained a great relationship for the girls and our families are still so supportive. We live in separate homes now but he comes over pretty much everyday to play after work or tuck the girls in, and he gives me money every time he gets paid. His parents will babysit without question and the same goes for my dad and step-mom.
I never mentioned it but he and I have still been sleeping together all throughout this process. I recently started feeling sick and it reminded me of how I felt when I was pregnant the first time. Last week, I took a pregnancy test and it came back positive. I was considering ending the sexual part of our relationship so that I could start dating in the future but haven’t been with anyone else. How can I give him this news as smoothly as possible?
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Do you know what you want to do next? I think it’s worth thinking about that so you can go into the conversation knowing what you’re talking about
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You seem pretty selfish. Either remarry him or leave forever. Stop leading him on.
The “world” is offering you OP the best of so many things: wonderful kids, attractive mate, financial security…. the FOMO is destroying all that could be great. And you can explore and experience all the world has to offer together. Seriously. I’m dumbfounded by this.
Well welcome to the world you’re a single mum to three kids now. He gets to go fuck off and fuck whomever else and you get morning sickness. Seriously, stop sleeping with him and never have sex without a condom. You need to be tested for diseases and infections asap.
Tell him however you want, but you need to let go of this guy. He’s just going to keep breeding you like a dog and leave you with the litter.
Well, you’re still acting like you’re 19-year-olds, so you might as well get married again.
How wonderful. Tell him. Congratulations btw.
Praise abort!
So from what I’ve read, you are pregnant with your ex husbands child, with whom you’ve been sleeping with, and you already have two kids from him? And you don’t want to get an abortion, but you do want to end the sexual relationship and start dating other people?
Just tell him? He’s got to pay child support already anyway. Tell him you want to end the sex side of things and go back to being co parents only. If he chooses to help you out subsequently through the pregnancy and not decide himself to hit the apps, there isn’t much else you should do. Total honesty. If you managed to keep lawyers out of your divorce, they may now become inevitable.
just get remarried
So you and your husband didn’t really break up so I don’t get why you would be stressing about this. Just let him know number 3 is on the way.
Just tell him, and be prepared for this co-parenting to get a little rocky. Hopefully not!
I feel like my mom could have written this. When we were little she still “dated” and was physical with my dad. It was confusing and sad for us and we felt lead on. Just something to consider, it’s not just you two. This seems unfair to them.
Jesus, I feel bad for your kids. Both of you are immature, and it sounds like you feel like doing immature things is necessary to have a fulfilling life.
How about what your kids might miss? Maybe that could be a priority, I don’t know.
“Hey, hubs… I mean, really, you are my hubs right? (insert smiley face here)
I think the whole FOMO was overrated and maybe we shouldn’t have gotten divorced. And because we’ve still been actively acting like we’re married in all ways, you should know, my pregnancy test came back positive. There’s no one else’s child it could be.”
Then listen to what he says. Listen well.
Just tell him, it going smoothly doesn’t really matter. You’re committed to being pregnant.
I got married at 18, we had 3 kids before 25. We’re celebrating 16 years married this month. We’ve seen the world together. We’ve experienced so much life together. Marriage can be amazing if you actually commit to making it work.
Best of luck to your family. I hope things lead you guys back together. You obviously like each other and it’s likely good for the kids.